I have really long and good exterience with dogs. But now when I finally found one I fell in love with in rescue centre, I was told that I cant have it cos we dont have a a garden (even thou there is large linked to our block of flats).
Its kind of a shock for me now, coz I really want that dog.
And I started thinking of asking someone to adopt her for me.
Do you know if house and adopted dog are checked after you take it home. Can one sell or give to a friend the dog after adopting it, is it illigal?
THANK YOU!
Please, help me with dog adoption!?
I understand ur pain!!! I too fell in love with a dog (mind you it was 10 years old and you know how people hardly adopt senior dogs) and they refused me because I rented. I understand their ideas of many people who rent have a higher rate of giving the dog away, but I had papers to prove we already paid a pet fee where we lived!! Needless to say, I found another rescue and brought home the best puppy ever!
They will do home checks after adopting the puppy and do have a legal right to take the puppy, which i'm sure would be heartbreaking if you get attached to the dog. Just try going to different rescues.. it'll work out - good luck!!
Reply:From one of the rescues I've gotten 2 dogs from yes they do check and I had to sign a contract that if I could not keep the dog's I would have to bring them back to the rescue, If I couldn't keep, but knew someone who could take good care of them, that person would have to apply for adoption, find a rescue that does adopt out to people without a yard, if you do it the wrong way you can lose the dog which will hurt both of you.
Reply:Most agencies anymore have the policy that once the pet is adopted, it can not be sold to someone else, but rather returned to the agency to be re-homed. IF they find out that it has been given away, they have the right to go and take the dog from the person who has it. You risk having the animal taken away if they decide to do a home visit to your friends house to check in on the adopted dog and it's not there.
Reply:Garden? What in the world does a garden have to do with adoption?
I recently adopted my 3rd Pom from a rescue group. The process was very tetious and long. The application process was especially nerve wrecking - they asked everything question from our financial status to footage of our home, to the materials our fence was built out of to what kind of dog food we feed.
There are reason for these guidelines and there are certain guidelines that must be met. Once a dog has been adopted out, most agencies have a strick policy that the dog can not be sold and if for any reason something happens the dog has to be returned to the rescue/adoption group.
If this is something you really want and you have met all the appropriate guidelines, then go above their head and ask to talk to their supervisors and or council members - if you want this, don't give up...
Reply:No. When a dog is adopted, you sign papers to return it to the shelter if you cannot keep the dog. So someone else couldn't adopt it and give it to you legally. I don't know where you live, but they do home inspections before and after adoptions where we live.
Reply:You do sign a legally binding adoption contract, stating you will NOT give the dog to someone else after adoption if things don't work out.
Look for another dog elsewhere, this just isn't meant to be. Do not have a friend adopt the dog, and then give it to you.
Reply:Why must you have a garden? Surely they would prefer he stay in the house as much as possible.
Is he a puppy instead of an adult dog?
The rescue groups that gave me my dogs always reserved the right to drop by and check on them.
Reply:Most shelters will not allow people to adopt pets unless they have a yard and most shelters will have it in the contract that the pet is not to be transferred to a new owner without the shleter's consent.
Reply:It is not okay for shelters to disallow people who fall in love with a dog, to adopt it just because there is no garden. I got my dog from a shelter, and I don't have a garden. I believe it is better for my dog, because I actually take the dog and walk him, instead of letting it out for the day to fend for itself. Go back to the shelter. Tell them your point of view, explain how much time you can spend a day to walk the dog, and try to explain why you want the dog so much. Allow them to check up on you to make sure the dog is well cared for, and tell them to give your beloved dog a chance at a happy life. My dog is the happiest in the world, and I love him dearly. You should be allowed to do the same.
Reply:Whether one is required to have a yard to have a dog depends on many things including but not limited to the type of dog, the person's age and whether or not the person has real experience with owning a dog and all the responsiblities that go along with it.
It may seem like it is easy and a lot of fun to walk a dog every morning, evening and night but it is quite a responsiblity especially when it is raining and cold or very hot. There is the responsibility of having to go straight home after work because there is a living creature depending on you there. That means you cannot stop off for a drink with your friends. Not all people will be dedicated enough. Then add to that fact a large and/or active dog who may become destructive becaise he is bored and has not had enough exercise, it gets even more complicated. That is a dog who is shelter bound sooner or later.
It is the rescue group's responsibility to that animal to try to weed out the people who may not be mature enough or understand how much work this can be---day in and day out. They do not want this dog to end up in the same position as it was in when they got it.
Just because you want a dog does not mean that you should have one. If you want proof of that then go visit your local kill shelter. In fact, volunteer in the euthanasia room. Many of these dogs were in homes who thought they wanted a dog, who thought they would walk the dog, who thought they would come home every night and now they are going to die a lonely death.
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Found a baby bird?
Hiya, i found a baby bird in my garden a few hours ago think it fell of the nest and cat got it! Rang the bird recuse people but they said all the animal centre are shut now. I will take it tomorrow if i can keep it a live. I'm trying to feed it dog food but won't eat and i have him well covered to keep him warm.
Any advice would be great?? xx We reckon it's a black bird x
Found a baby bird?
You have to watch as baby wild birds can die of shock quite easily.
If it is a blackbird dig up some worms from the garden and try holding them in a pair of tweezers directly in the birds view.With luck the bird will open its beak and you can start feeding it that way.
They do need fed quite often but it is rewarding if you are successful and the bird survives.
Reply:Use tweezers and feed by hand , cat food if you have any... although dog food should do. It wont take the food itself. If the dog food is firm mix a little water with it to make it mushy. During daylight hours you need to feed it by hand every 1-2 hours.Make a nest out of torn tissue paper in a dish (loo roll would do).
I sucessfully reared a greenfinch using the aforsaid methord (I thought it was a blackbird til it got older) As it gets older it will help itself to seed.
Reply:we raised a baby mockingbird and we fed it crushed insects and chopped up worms. you can buy live crickets and mealworms at your local petstore if you don't want to go dig for some in your garden. if it won't eat, try feeding it mushed banana with warm milk mixed in. our little mockingbird loved it. good luck!!
Reply:I found a baby robin and it was sooo cute kept it alive for 3 days..........It had some sourt of deasese.
Anyways feed it warm kibble soaked in milk you'll also have to cut the kibble into smaller peices. Try and find it's nest and put him back up there if you can.
Reply:try feeding it insects and seeds etc, mushed up worms, i know grusome. I dont think that it will ever sourvive in the wild again, coz the other birds will know that humans have handled it (they can smell us on them), but i hope the bird sourvives.
Reply:Smash some bananas and berries together(smash very well)!
Make sure you can get small drops of water on your finger and put it over its mouth so it doesnt get dehightrated!
Reply:http://nationalzoo.si.edu/Animals/Birds/...
http://www.starlingtalk.com/babycare.htm
Good luck.
Reply:try soaking the the dog food till its a bit mushy and at about room temp.
Reply:call your local rspca or sspca they will collect it
Any advice would be great?? xx We reckon it's a black bird x
Found a baby bird?
You have to watch as baby wild birds can die of shock quite easily.
If it is a blackbird dig up some worms from the garden and try holding them in a pair of tweezers directly in the birds view.With luck the bird will open its beak and you can start feeding it that way.
They do need fed quite often but it is rewarding if you are successful and the bird survives.
Reply:Use tweezers and feed by hand , cat food if you have any... although dog food should do. It wont take the food itself. If the dog food is firm mix a little water with it to make it mushy. During daylight hours you need to feed it by hand every 1-2 hours.Make a nest out of torn tissue paper in a dish (loo roll would do).
I sucessfully reared a greenfinch using the aforsaid methord (I thought it was a blackbird til it got older) As it gets older it will help itself to seed.
Reply:we raised a baby mockingbird and we fed it crushed insects and chopped up worms. you can buy live crickets and mealworms at your local petstore if you don't want to go dig for some in your garden. if it won't eat, try feeding it mushed banana with warm milk mixed in. our little mockingbird loved it. good luck!!
Reply:I found a baby robin and it was sooo cute kept it alive for 3 days..........It had some sourt of deasese.
Anyways feed it warm kibble soaked in milk you'll also have to cut the kibble into smaller peices. Try and find it's nest and put him back up there if you can.
Reply:try feeding it insects and seeds etc, mushed up worms, i know grusome. I dont think that it will ever sourvive in the wild again, coz the other birds will know that humans have handled it (they can smell us on them), but i hope the bird sourvives.
Reply:Smash some bananas and berries together(smash very well)!
Make sure you can get small drops of water on your finger and put it over its mouth so it doesnt get dehightrated!
Reply:http://nationalzoo.si.edu/Animals/Birds/...
http://www.starlingtalk.com/babycare.htm
Good luck.
Reply:try soaking the the dog food till its a bit mushy and at about room temp.
Reply:call your local rspca or sspca they will collect it
My 14 month old toddler is, i guess bored most part of the day?
this is our first kid and both me and my husband work full time. My parents who stay with us look after my son. I work from home most of the days and take an hour break in the afternoon most days to play with him. We have toys for him (not many) and he is usually interested in playing with household stuff and the house is pretty much child proof. However, i find him not very happy most part of the day. He wants to play only with me. He gets bored and whines with my parents to play sometime with one toy and soon with another. He is very happy when he is taken out but we can do that only in the evenings (weather is quite hot for afternoon outings for him with my parents and our house doesnt have a garden). Is there something that my parents can do and he is better occupied? Is few hours in a day-care centre better for him with company of other children?
My 14 month old toddler is, i guess bored most part of the day?
may he knows you are there, and can't understand why he can't have you. if he is intrested in household stuff, just have them walk around the house with him and show him stuff and tell him what it is. i do this with my daughter and she love it. her new favorite thing is to point to all the clocks in the house and say clock, then i say ( very happily) yes! clock, you are so smart. good job. this makes her very happy and eager to learn more. sounds like he wants to learn things, alot of things if he is anything like my daughters! good luck. hope this helps.
Reply:I do think u should put him in a daycare part-time because he would have other kids to play with and develop his social skills also
Reply:u should put him in a day care... he will get to play w/ kids his own age
Reply:When you are not at home he can't play with you, Your parents can show some of your photographs %26amp; talk about you. And also they can tell some stories to him.
Reply:If he is only spending time with adults, he could certainly benefit from daycare. They will do arts and crafts, take walks, play on the playground, and generally keep him quite busy the entire time they have him. My daughter loves daycare and we have trouble keeping her entertained on the weekends. We go grocery shopping, to the park, on walks, paint, color, read books, chase birds ... anyway, my point is that we are constantly working to keep her from getting bored.
Think about it, if you have half the day to work, uninterrupted, and he had half the day to play his heart out, maybe your parents wouldn't have to work so hard to keep him happy and you could spend more time with him in the afternoons.
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My 14 month old toddler is, i guess bored most part of the day?
may he knows you are there, and can't understand why he can't have you. if he is intrested in household stuff, just have them walk around the house with him and show him stuff and tell him what it is. i do this with my daughter and she love it. her new favorite thing is to point to all the clocks in the house and say clock, then i say ( very happily) yes! clock, you are so smart. good job. this makes her very happy and eager to learn more. sounds like he wants to learn things, alot of things if he is anything like my daughters! good luck. hope this helps.
Reply:I do think u should put him in a daycare part-time because he would have other kids to play with and develop his social skills also
Reply:u should put him in a day care... he will get to play w/ kids his own age
Reply:When you are not at home he can't play with you, Your parents can show some of your photographs %26amp; talk about you. And also they can tell some stories to him.
Reply:If he is only spending time with adults, he could certainly benefit from daycare. They will do arts and crafts, take walks, play on the playground, and generally keep him quite busy the entire time they have him. My daughter loves daycare and we have trouble keeping her entertained on the weekends. We go grocery shopping, to the park, on walks, paint, color, read books, chase birds ... anyway, my point is that we are constantly working to keep her from getting bored.
Think about it, if you have half the day to work, uninterrupted, and he had half the day to play his heart out, maybe your parents wouldn't have to work so hard to keep him happy and you could spend more time with him in the afternoons.
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Should I accept this flat?
my boyf and I live near enough in the centre of town in a housing association old style 1 bedroomed top floor flat, its small but fine for a couple it has a good sized lounge and bedroom but the kitchen is tiny 4 months ago we had a baby boy. Even before I was pregnant we had our names on various council housing lists as we wanted a house with a garden etc of course now that we are overcrowded we have a bit more priority, the thing is the housing assocation have offered us a new build ground floor, 2 bedroomed flat, close to where we stay the rooms are quite small should we take it and lose our chance of a house or wait until something better comes up, like a terraced house or even a flat where we had our own front door and bit of garden? what would you do?
Should I accept this flat?
With the housing situation in crisis, I doubt very much any council will give you a house with just one child. Houses are like "gold dust" and very few and far between, and given to those with most points. It's a difficult situation, as people cannot afford to buy houses, but there are not enough council (or association) houses to fulfill the needs of an ever growing British population. I would accept the 2 bedroomed flat graciously, at least it's on the ground floor, and not high up in a tower block. If you don't accept it, it will be snapped up by some foreigner, and you may find yourself at the back of the queue for refusing a decent offer. As for the idiots who suggest these people wait till they get adequate housing, before having kids, you do not know what you are talking about. It may be fine for people who can afford to buy a house, or bought before the housing crisis, but how many of our young people do you think can afford to get on the bottom rung of the housing ladder these days? NOT MANY, but does that mean they have to remain childless, and are denied the right to a family?? Maybe it's the very reason our Country is being taken over by Muslims, as the housing situation (and people who think the poor should stop breeding) is forcing our own people to stop raising families!!!
Good luck sweetheart, my son has just been given his first house after 7 years with a 10 year old girl, and 6 year old twin boys, in a 2 bedroomed 2nd floor flat.(imagine carting a twin buggy, and twins up 2 flights of stairs for at least 2 years??)
Reply:Sorry, you may not like what I am about to say, but why have a baby and expect the council to house you. Would it not have been better to fend for yourself and have the baby later. I think the council have been more than conciliatory in offering you another place, as a lot of people in far greater need, still have no home, so I suggest taking what is offered and make the best of it.
Reply:It seems that the housing council is the one that decides on where you will spend the rest of your lives. If you can not wait for something better to come up, why not come to the Philippines where you could freely settle into the house that would suit your needs?.......
Reply:I would wait for a few months. I would also get married to legitimize my baby
Reply:If you can hold out, then wait. Maybe another 6 months or so.
Reply:Can you not take it temporarily? it would be much easier with the baby and pram/pushcair etc. Is a terrace actually going to give you more space? don't forget stairs take up a lot of room, (debate I'm currently having with hubby about moving our staircase!) and rooms are smaller, unless you have some in mind, and a good chance of getting one of those, I think I would go for a nice trouble free, fresh new build, you might be able to swap later? Baby won't be playing in the garden for a while! I had a lovely(council) 2 bed 'maisonette' top floor - difficult with a baby and pushchair and not high so no lift! Take no notice of other people - that's where my son and I started, now got my own (bought) 4 bed house with big garden - circumstances change! Good luck to you all!
Reply:Jeeze! Seriously, my mum and dad were on the list for 11 years living in a bedsit with my older sister since she was born, and when I was three, my sister ten, we finally got offered our three bedroom house. Our previous house had only one actual bedroom for all four of us. You shouldn't expect things like a garden or a terrace. That's a plus with a house, not a standard, whether you have a kid or not. Take what you can get, especially when others can't get anything at all. We don't even have anything outside now, just a small balcony.
Should I accept this flat?
With the housing situation in crisis, I doubt very much any council will give you a house with just one child. Houses are like "gold dust" and very few and far between, and given to those with most points. It's a difficult situation, as people cannot afford to buy houses, but there are not enough council (or association) houses to fulfill the needs of an ever growing British population. I would accept the 2 bedroomed flat graciously, at least it's on the ground floor, and not high up in a tower block. If you don't accept it, it will be snapped up by some foreigner, and you may find yourself at the back of the queue for refusing a decent offer. As for the idiots who suggest these people wait till they get adequate housing, before having kids, you do not know what you are talking about. It may be fine for people who can afford to buy a house, or bought before the housing crisis, but how many of our young people do you think can afford to get on the bottom rung of the housing ladder these days? NOT MANY, but does that mean they have to remain childless, and are denied the right to a family?? Maybe it's the very reason our Country is being taken over by Muslims, as the housing situation (and people who think the poor should stop breeding) is forcing our own people to stop raising families!!!
Good luck sweetheart, my son has just been given his first house after 7 years with a 10 year old girl, and 6 year old twin boys, in a 2 bedroomed 2nd floor flat.(imagine carting a twin buggy, and twins up 2 flights of stairs for at least 2 years??)
Reply:Sorry, you may not like what I am about to say, but why have a baby and expect the council to house you. Would it not have been better to fend for yourself and have the baby later. I think the council have been more than conciliatory in offering you another place, as a lot of people in far greater need, still have no home, so I suggest taking what is offered and make the best of it.
Reply:It seems that the housing council is the one that decides on where you will spend the rest of your lives. If you can not wait for something better to come up, why not come to the Philippines where you could freely settle into the house that would suit your needs?.......
Reply:I would wait for a few months. I would also get married to legitimize my baby
Reply:If you can hold out, then wait. Maybe another 6 months or so.
Reply:Can you not take it temporarily? it would be much easier with the baby and pram/pushcair etc. Is a terrace actually going to give you more space? don't forget stairs take up a lot of room, (debate I'm currently having with hubby about moving our staircase!) and rooms are smaller, unless you have some in mind, and a good chance of getting one of those, I think I would go for a nice trouble free, fresh new build, you might be able to swap later? Baby won't be playing in the garden for a while! I had a lovely(council) 2 bed 'maisonette' top floor - difficult with a baby and pushchair and not high so no lift! Take no notice of other people - that's where my son and I started, now got my own (bought) 4 bed house with big garden - circumstances change! Good luck to you all!
Reply:Jeeze! Seriously, my mum and dad were on the list for 11 years living in a bedsit with my older sister since she was born, and when I was three, my sister ten, we finally got offered our three bedroom house. Our previous house had only one actual bedroom for all four of us. You shouldn't expect things like a garden or a terrace. That's a plus with a house, not a standard, whether you have a kid or not. Take what you can get, especially when others can't get anything at all. We don't even have anything outside now, just a small balcony.
Hi could you correct me this letter please?
i'm italian and i'm not good ^^
Dear Jim,
how're you?
thanks for your letter which i received yesterday!
At weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things! (here i don't know how write impersonal form "si possono fare")
Some day my friends and I go to the centre to do shopping like you or we go to mondello
beach (the sun comes in mars!) or we play volleyball in some common garden or we go skating on the ice!!
And the saturday evening we often go to eat pizza and after to walk in centre or sometime we
go to the disco or usually we see a film in my house or in my friends' house.
Every weekends we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things the saturday evening?
Write-me soon
kisses Gabriella
Hi could you correct me this letter please?
Gabriella, how about this? I corrected it for you and changed many words but, the meaning is the same. Have fun!
Dear Jim
How are you? Thanks for your letter which I received yesterday!
On weekends here in Palermo we can do many things. On Some days my friends and I like to go to the shopping center just like you do in the States. We often go to Mondello Beach to watch the beautiful sunsets, play volleyball in the garden or go ice skating!!
On Saturday evenings we often go out to eat pizza and go for a walk in the mall afterward. Sometimes, we go dancing and usually watch a film in my house or at my friends' house.
We really enjoy our weekends! Do you do similar things on Saturday evenings?
Write me soon,
kisses,
Gabriella
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you?
Thanks for your letter which i received yesterday!
At the weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things!
Like you, some days my friends and I go to the centre to shop, we also go to mondello beach, play volleyball in a garden or we go ice skating.
On Saturday evenings we often go and have a pizza and sometimes walk in the centre afterwards. We go to the disco or usually we see a film in my house or in my friend's house.
Every weekend we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things on Saturday evenings?
Write-me soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:The impersonal form of 'si possono fare' can be expressed in a few ways in English.
'you can do a lot of things' (between friends)
'one can do a lot of things' (formal)
or 'alot of things can be done'
Your English is very good but see my corrections below.
Some days (or sometimes) my friends and I......
...or we go ice-skating.
And on Saturday evening......
And afterwards we walk.....
Sometimes we go to the disco.....
...in my friend's house.
Every weekend.....
Do you do other things on Saturday evenings?
Also we don't usually use the expression 'to go to the centre' in English. We mostly say 'to go into town' or 'to go into the city'.
Reply:Dear Jim,
Thanks for your letter I received it yesterday.
How are you?
In Palermo at weekends there are a lot of things for us to do.
Some days my friends and I go to the centre to do shopping, or we go to Mondello
beach (the Sun comes in mars!), we play volleyball or go ice skating.
And the Saturday evening we often go to eat pizza, walk in centre after. Occasionally we go to the disco or to see a film in my friends or my house.
We really enjoy ourselves every weekend.
What do you do on the Saturday evening?
Write soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:I saw some grammatical errors but I don't think you should have a personal letter edited by somebody else. If this were a professional letter, that would be different. Since this is personal, send it the way you wrote it.
Some of the grammatical errors is what makes it more personal.
Reply:The corrections offered by Jodie, Teddy Bear and others are poor. DO NOT USE THEM.
Your letter is a true example of your good English.
With a little more practise it should become excellent!
Many native English speakers (includes USA) could not compose a letter such as yours - just look at the questions and answers on Y/A!
Reply:Dear Jim,
How're you? Thanks for your letter which I recieved yesterday! Durind the weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things.
and:
every weekend, we really enjoy ourselves.
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you? Thanks for your letter which I received yesterday. Weekends here in Palermo there are many things to do. Somedays my friends and I go to the center to do shopping or we go to Mondello beach . We also play volleyball in some common garden or go ice skating. On saturday evenings we often go to eat pizza and after go walk to the centre or go to the disco. Sometimes we see a movie at my house or a friends house. Every weekend we really have a good time. What other things do you do on Saturday evening. Write me soon.
Kisses,
Gabriella
I am not to sure what the sun comes in mars means. Hope this helps!
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you? Thanks for your letter which i received yesterday!
At weekends here in Palermo we do a lot of things!
Some days my friends and I go to the shopping centre like you, or we go to mondello beach (the sun comes in may!) or we play volleyball in the garden, also we go ice skating!!
And on a saturday evening we often for a pizza and after that we have a walk in the centre. Sometimes we go to a disco or we watch a film at my house or at my friends' house.
Every weekend we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do any other things on saturday evenings?
Write back to me soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you?
Thanks for your letter which I received yesterday!
At weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things!(Here I don't know how to write impersonal form "si possono fare.")
Some day my friends and I go to the centre to do shopping like you or we go to mondello beach (the sun comes in mars!) or we play volleyball in some common garden we go ice skating!!
On Saturday evening we often go to eat pizza and after to walk in centre or sometimes we go to the disco or usaully we see a movie in my house or in my friend's house.
Every weekend we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things on Saturday evening?
Write-me soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you? Thank you for your letter which i received yesterday. Over the weekends here, in Palermo, theres many things we could do. Some days my friends and I go into the town centre to do shopping like you or we go to mondello
beach (the sun comes in mars!), play volleyball or go iceskating.
Saturday evenings we often go out to eat pizza and then walk into the centre of town. Sometimes we
go to a disco or we watch a film at my house or at my friends' .
Every weekends we really do enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things on a Saturday evening?
Write to me soon
Kisses
Gabriella x
(Hope this helps)
Reply:you know something funny?
Palermo in brazilian portuguese means someone ''retarded'', ''slow brain''.
Sorry, I really would like to help you but I think my english sucks more than yours.
hehehehe
Reply:"I am getting laid every night but don't worry as I am making sure that they use protection so I wont pass anything on to you. Can I bring Marcos home with me?"
Reply:Dear Jim,
My english sucks so I really should get a translater.
Sincerely,
Gabriella
Reply:Wow, what an exciting life. Yawn- oh well, andare la casa.
Reply:ok
Dear Jim,
how're you?
thanks for your letter which i received yesterday!
At weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things! (here i don't know how write impersonal form "si possono fare")
Some day my friends and I go to the centre to do shopping like you or we go to mondello
beach (the sun comes in mars!) or we play volleyball in some common garden or we go skating on the ice!!
And the saturday evening we often go to eat pizza and after to walk in centre or sometime we
go to the disco or usually we see a film in my house or in my friends' house.
Every weekends we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things the saturday evening?
Write-me soon
kisses Gabriella
Hi could you correct me this letter please?
Gabriella, how about this? I corrected it for you and changed many words but, the meaning is the same. Have fun!
Dear Jim
How are you? Thanks for your letter which I received yesterday!
On weekends here in Palermo we can do many things. On Some days my friends and I like to go to the shopping center just like you do in the States. We often go to Mondello Beach to watch the beautiful sunsets, play volleyball in the garden or go ice skating!!
On Saturday evenings we often go out to eat pizza and go for a walk in the mall afterward. Sometimes, we go dancing and usually watch a film in my house or at my friends' house.
We really enjoy our weekends! Do you do similar things on Saturday evenings?
Write me soon,
kisses,
Gabriella
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you?
Thanks for your letter which i received yesterday!
At the weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things!
Like you, some days my friends and I go to the centre to shop, we also go to mondello beach, play volleyball in a garden or we go ice skating.
On Saturday evenings we often go and have a pizza and sometimes walk in the centre afterwards. We go to the disco or usually we see a film in my house or in my friend's house.
Every weekend we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things on Saturday evenings?
Write-me soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:The impersonal form of 'si possono fare' can be expressed in a few ways in English.
'you can do a lot of things' (between friends)
'one can do a lot of things' (formal)
or 'alot of things can be done'
Your English is very good but see my corrections below.
Some days (or sometimes) my friends and I......
...or we go ice-skating.
And on Saturday evening......
And afterwards we walk.....
Sometimes we go to the disco.....
...in my friend's house.
Every weekend.....
Do you do other things on Saturday evenings?
Also we don't usually use the expression 'to go to the centre' in English. We mostly say 'to go into town' or 'to go into the city'.
Reply:Dear Jim,
Thanks for your letter I received it yesterday.
How are you?
In Palermo at weekends there are a lot of things for us to do.
Some days my friends and I go to the centre to do shopping, or we go to Mondello
beach (the Sun comes in mars!), we play volleyball or go ice skating.
And the Saturday evening we often go to eat pizza, walk in centre after. Occasionally we go to the disco or to see a film in my friends or my house.
We really enjoy ourselves every weekend.
What do you do on the Saturday evening?
Write soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:I saw some grammatical errors but I don't think you should have a personal letter edited by somebody else. If this were a professional letter, that would be different. Since this is personal, send it the way you wrote it.
Some of the grammatical errors is what makes it more personal.
Reply:The corrections offered by Jodie, Teddy Bear and others are poor. DO NOT USE THEM.
Your letter is a true example of your good English.
With a little more practise it should become excellent!
Many native English speakers (includes USA) could not compose a letter such as yours - just look at the questions and answers on Y/A!
Reply:Dear Jim,
How're you? Thanks for your letter which I recieved yesterday! Durind the weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things.
and:
every weekend, we really enjoy ourselves.
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you? Thanks for your letter which I received yesterday. Weekends here in Palermo there are many things to do. Somedays my friends and I go to the center to do shopping or we go to Mondello beach . We also play volleyball in some common garden or go ice skating. On saturday evenings we often go to eat pizza and after go walk to the centre or go to the disco. Sometimes we see a movie at my house or a friends house. Every weekend we really have a good time. What other things do you do on Saturday evening. Write me soon.
Kisses,
Gabriella
I am not to sure what the sun comes in mars means. Hope this helps!
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you? Thanks for your letter which i received yesterday!
At weekends here in Palermo we do a lot of things!
Some days my friends and I go to the shopping centre like you, or we go to mondello beach (the sun comes in may!) or we play volleyball in the garden, also we go ice skating!!
And on a saturday evening we often for a pizza and after that we have a walk in the centre. Sometimes we go to a disco or we watch a film at my house or at my friends' house.
Every weekend we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do any other things on saturday evenings?
Write back to me soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you?
Thanks for your letter which I received yesterday!
At weekends here in Palermo we could do a lot of things!(Here I don't know how to write impersonal form "si possono fare.")
Some day my friends and I go to the centre to do shopping like you or we go to mondello beach (the sun comes in mars!) or we play volleyball in some common garden we go ice skating!!
On Saturday evening we often go to eat pizza and after to walk in centre or sometimes we go to the disco or usaully we see a movie in my house or in my friend's house.
Every weekend we really enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things on Saturday evening?
Write-me soon
kisses Gabriella
Reply:Dear Jim,
How are you? Thank you for your letter which i received yesterday. Over the weekends here, in Palermo, theres many things we could do. Some days my friends and I go into the town centre to do shopping like you or we go to mondello
beach (the sun comes in mars!), play volleyball or go iceskating.
Saturday evenings we often go out to eat pizza and then walk into the centre of town. Sometimes we
go to a disco or we watch a film at my house or at my friends' .
Every weekends we really do enjoy ourselves!
Do you do other things on a Saturday evening?
Write to me soon
Kisses
Gabriella x
(Hope this helps)
Reply:you know something funny?
Palermo in brazilian portuguese means someone ''retarded'', ''slow brain''.
Sorry, I really would like to help you but I think my english sucks more than yours.
hehehehe
Reply:"I am getting laid every night but don't worry as I am making sure that they use protection so I wont pass anything on to you. Can I bring Marcos home with me?"
Reply:Dear Jim,
My english sucks so I really should get a translater.
Sincerely,
Gabriella
Reply:Wow, what an exciting life. Yawn- oh well, andare la casa.
Reply:ok
Vancouver canada---what to do?
Can someone tell me about the places I have listed below?
We were given free tickets to all these attractions and am trying to figure out which ones are worth it...and if they are better in the summer or early winter?
Also we are 2 adults--no children if that helps choosing which things are best....Thanks in advance for your help
Vancouver Lookout! Harbour Tower
Grouse Mountain
The Vancouver Aquarium and Marine Sciences Centre
Science World
Vancouver Maritime Museum
The Capilano Suspension Bridge
The University of British Columbia Museum of Anthropology
Stanley Park Horse Drawn Carriages
Sewells Marina (May thru October)
Vancouver Whale Watch (May thru October)
Van Dusen Garden
Dr. Sun Yt San Classical Chinese Garden
Harbour Cruiseschar
Vancouver canada---what to do?
Grouse Mountain is always a tourist favorite, the view is fantastic ( you take a gondola up the mountain to the ski hill ) and there is a bear habitat at the top and you will see Grizzley bears, not black or brown bears but Grizzley bears!! Capilano Suspension Bridge in on the road to Grouse Mountain so you could easily do both in the same day.
The Aquarium is in Stanley Park and is a must see as well. They have Orcas and belugas and other species native to our waters, really neat to see. Stanley Park is the park right downtown and you can take the horse drawn carriage around the seawall for great views of the inlet. Again, both things you can do in one day. The harbour cruises leave from just out the park as well so that works out as well.
If you are into gardens then you can go to the Sun Yet San Gardens they are in China town which is right next to Gastown, a good historical walk through Vancouver (just don't mind the drug addicts and homeless people). Van Dusen is considered the best gardens but it is a 20 minute drive from the centre core but still in Vancouver.
I would check out the Museum of Anthropology it is at UBC ( the university ) which is on the Endowment Lands ( basically a big forest ) and is near quite a few beaches. It is a lovely drive there ( 20-30 minutes? ) from d/t and you can check them all out, there is even a nude beach ( Wreck Beach ) but don't worry it is not something you can find easily just ask if you want to end up there though!
I wouldn't bother going to Science World it is mostly for kids. The Maritime Museum is interesting if you are into boats travelling through the Arctic Passage but otherwise.. skip it.
September is the best time to visit Vancouver, all the kids are back to school and everyone is back to work so it will be easier for you to get around. Plus the weather is always gorgeous the whole month of September, blue skies and no rain.
Have fun, congrats on winning everything!
Reply:WATCH A CANUCKS GAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
otherwise go to grouse or aquarium. awesome places.
Reply:My husband and I's first visit trip to Vancouver was in June last year and totally fell in love with Vancouver.
Stayed 5 days in a hotel by Coal Harbour.
Coming from a first time Vancouver tourist, I would suggest the following MUSTS:
* strolling along Coal Harbour ... the view is fantastic (I might as well mention, it's quite a long walk but scenery is well worth it.)
* Lookout Tower ....and just a block or two at the back of the bldg. is....
* Gastown, which is quaint and pictureque...
* the Storyeum is also in Gastown... but more for kids.....well, would have been worth it if we had our grandkids. But, taking pictures with the "Jurassic" -theme facade and animals was nice.
* Stanley Park ... again, walking the harbour with the waterfront view. We did not try the Horse-drawn ride but still enjoyed just strolling.
* Vancouver Aquarium, also in Stanley Park
* Van Dusen Garden is a bit farther from downtown but we made it there nicely and safely by just taking the bus. I am sure your hotel will gladly help you with the route.
BEST of ALL.........the BEARS ALL OVER downtown and neighboring areas!!!
On our first day, that's what caught our attention and we made it a point to take a picture of each and every bear statue we encountered. BTW....the bear statues are a work of art in itself.....each one is unique and very colorful!
Enjoy your trip!
Reply:it really just depends wut ur interested in. personally, if i had a choice out of those, I would DEFINITELY do grouse (summer or winter is great) and the suspension bridge. the other things (like science world and the aquarium) are great, but you can do that almost anywhere. these things are unique to BC.
Reply:I have only been to Grouse Mountain. You can take a scenic ride up to the top of the mountain where you have a great view of Vancouver and a restaurant I believe. Also if you go in the winter there is skiing/snowboarding.
Reply:harbour center so so Expensive restaurant Quue ELizabeth Park Just as good or better Grouse Mountain GREAT any time Aqarium summer science world not bad Good Imax theatre Cap suspension Bridge TOURIST TRAP Go were we go Lynn Canyon Were old shoes Nice hiking traills ( its FREE) Ubc Museum Good lots of indian artifacks Horse drawn Carriages Ride the free shuttle bus instead Sewells not Bad Vandusen Gardens good But Park %26amp; tilford Gardens smaller but free dr Sun Yet gardens Good Harbour Cruises Nice Summer b is best Get a day pass for buses Less than 10 bucks See metro town mall 500 stores Granville island Ride the little ferries see gastown
We were given free tickets to all these attractions and am trying to figure out which ones are worth it...and if they are better in the summer or early winter?
Also we are 2 adults--no children if that helps choosing which things are best....Thanks in advance for your help
Vancouver Lookout! Harbour Tower
Grouse Mountain
The Vancouver Aquarium and Marine Sciences Centre
Science World
Vancouver Maritime Museum
The Capilano Suspension Bridge
The University of British Columbia Museum of Anthropology
Stanley Park Horse Drawn Carriages
Sewells Marina (May thru October)
Vancouver Whale Watch (May thru October)
Van Dusen Garden
Dr. Sun Yt San Classical Chinese Garden
Harbour Cruiseschar
Vancouver canada---what to do?
Grouse Mountain is always a tourist favorite, the view is fantastic ( you take a gondola up the mountain to the ski hill ) and there is a bear habitat at the top and you will see Grizzley bears, not black or brown bears but Grizzley bears!! Capilano Suspension Bridge in on the road to Grouse Mountain so you could easily do both in the same day.
The Aquarium is in Stanley Park and is a must see as well. They have Orcas and belugas and other species native to our waters, really neat to see. Stanley Park is the park right downtown and you can take the horse drawn carriage around the seawall for great views of the inlet. Again, both things you can do in one day. The harbour cruises leave from just out the park as well so that works out as well.
If you are into gardens then you can go to the Sun Yet San Gardens they are in China town which is right next to Gastown, a good historical walk through Vancouver (just don't mind the drug addicts and homeless people). Van Dusen is considered the best gardens but it is a 20 minute drive from the centre core but still in Vancouver.
I would check out the Museum of Anthropology it is at UBC ( the university ) which is on the Endowment Lands ( basically a big forest ) and is near quite a few beaches. It is a lovely drive there ( 20-30 minutes? ) from d/t and you can check them all out, there is even a nude beach ( Wreck Beach ) but don't worry it is not something you can find easily just ask if you want to end up there though!
I wouldn't bother going to Science World it is mostly for kids. The Maritime Museum is interesting if you are into boats travelling through the Arctic Passage but otherwise.. skip it.
September is the best time to visit Vancouver, all the kids are back to school and everyone is back to work so it will be easier for you to get around. Plus the weather is always gorgeous the whole month of September, blue skies and no rain.
Have fun, congrats on winning everything!
Reply:WATCH A CANUCKS GAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
otherwise go to grouse or aquarium. awesome places.
Reply:My husband and I's first visit trip to Vancouver was in June last year and totally fell in love with Vancouver.
Stayed 5 days in a hotel by Coal Harbour.
Coming from a first time Vancouver tourist, I would suggest the following MUSTS:
* strolling along Coal Harbour ... the view is fantastic (I might as well mention, it's quite a long walk but scenery is well worth it.)
* Lookout Tower ....and just a block or two at the back of the bldg. is....
* Gastown, which is quaint and pictureque...
* the Storyeum is also in Gastown... but more for kids.....well, would have been worth it if we had our grandkids. But, taking pictures with the "Jurassic" -theme facade and animals was nice.
* Stanley Park ... again, walking the harbour with the waterfront view. We did not try the Horse-drawn ride but still enjoyed just strolling.
* Vancouver Aquarium, also in Stanley Park
* Van Dusen Garden is a bit farther from downtown but we made it there nicely and safely by just taking the bus. I am sure your hotel will gladly help you with the route.
BEST of ALL.........the BEARS ALL OVER downtown and neighboring areas!!!
On our first day, that's what caught our attention and we made it a point to take a picture of each and every bear statue we encountered. BTW....the bear statues are a work of art in itself.....each one is unique and very colorful!
Enjoy your trip!
Reply:it really just depends wut ur interested in. personally, if i had a choice out of those, I would DEFINITELY do grouse (summer or winter is great) and the suspension bridge. the other things (like science world and the aquarium) are great, but you can do that almost anywhere. these things are unique to BC.
Reply:I have only been to Grouse Mountain. You can take a scenic ride up to the top of the mountain where you have a great view of Vancouver and a restaurant I believe. Also if you go in the winter there is skiing/snowboarding.
Reply:harbour center so so Expensive restaurant Quue ELizabeth Park Just as good or better Grouse Mountain GREAT any time Aqarium summer science world not bad Good Imax theatre Cap suspension Bridge TOURIST TRAP Go were we go Lynn Canyon Were old shoes Nice hiking traills ( its FREE) Ubc Museum Good lots of indian artifacks Horse drawn Carriages Ride the free shuttle bus instead Sewells not Bad Vandusen Gardens good But Park %26amp; tilford Gardens smaller but free dr Sun Yet gardens Good Harbour Cruises Nice Summer b is best Get a day pass for buses Less than 10 bucks See metro town mall 500 stores Granville island Ride the little ferries see gastown
Is this any good?/novel?
BETTER THE DEVIL YOU KNOW
Chapter 1
Wow, that was some story thought Joan as she placed the paperback onto the coffee
table. The novel, Chick Lit, was not really intended for her age group, mid sixties, but she’d thoroughly enjoyed it, and why not? The elderly were just teenagers in old skin.
Joan sat back on the shiny, leather sofa and sipped her coffee. Sparked off by the contents of the book, she reflected on the fifty years she deemed wasted on two dead leg husbands.
Jeez, that’s half a century! The first, fat, flawed and futile, the second and current one, well, yes, the second and current one…
She lit a cigarette, drew heavily on it and made her mind up there and then that she was going to get a life, not just any old life, a young life, a sort of Chick Lit life, a life she’d missed out on all those years ago. Three kids before ones twenty first birthday had been far from a good starting point. Joan hadn’t been in love with him but a sexual ‘experiment’ had led to an unwanted pregnancy and society at that time made sure there were to be no single mothers. A man-child for a so called husband and an even worse mother-in-law, the type you could gladly drop into an acid bath so all trace had gone, well except for dentures.
She glanced at the calendar and pondered on a date from when her new life should begin.
But where to begin? Botox, Crystal-blast, Face-lift? I need something. It’s ok to think chick but when your skin thinks hen…there’s more lines on it than a Rhode Island road map.
Dvorak’s Humoresque belted out from the phone and penetrated Joan’s thoughts. ‘Help the aged,’ she answered.
‘Hi, it’s me.’
‘Jules! I was going to ring you but I thought you’d still be zedding it. How’d it go?’ Joan perked up at the sound of her best friend’s voice, and then realised, that her voice sounded wary.
‘You’re not going to like this Joan, are you sitting comfortably?’
For Jules to say that, the news had to be big. Joan leant against the arm of a chair.
‘Go on, what happened?’
‘She’s blonde, tubby… and wait for it…about twenty five years old.’
Joan was silent for a moment. So it was true beyond a doubt, Pete had a bit on the side. She slid down the arm of the chair to the seat. Maybe Jules had seen the evidence, but Joan herself hadn’t.
‘Get her address?’
‘Yeah, rough district, look, I’ll come across and we can chat at length. Ok?’
Joan replaced the receiver and went to the drinks cabinet. At least she’s fat. She mused.
Selecting the most expensive red, she uncorked it and poured a large, no, a very large glass. Her friend liked red too, as she always said, ‘at our age it’s good for the old arteries.’
Jules arrived in her brand new Smart car; it had made a good disguise the previous evening for tracking Peter, Joan’s husband.
‘I suspected some time ago he was playing around Jules, although, really I can’t imagine who’d fancy a clapped out eighty two year old. He’s recently invested in some new Y-fronts too, what sort of woman shags a man who wears Y-Fronts? The mind boggles.’
The second bottle of red was having a pleasant couldn’t-care-less attitude on Joan’s grey matter. She giggled along with Jules imagining Pete getting his leg over.
‘Perhaps he makes a better sugar-granddaddy than a sugar-daddy,’ she laughed.
For all the mirth, Jules could see a deep sadness behind her friend’s eyes. Pals from school days they’d stuck together over the years. They’d become more like sisters than their own sisters.
‘This isn’t the first woman Pete’s shagged but this time I want facts, enough’s enough. besides, this new sex-on-legs-cow’s had a profound effect on him.’
Basically a kind person, in recent years he’d become retaliative, sarcastic and decidedly cold in his manner towards her.
‘In the early years my ‘fiery’ nature turned him on and he even admitted that to this end he sometimes goaded me! What really bugs me as well, he used to love the way I flounced off when we rowed, he loved watching my long, dark hair swinging about. Now, he says I’m aggressive or I need anger therapy, cheeky sod, he obviously thinks silver hair isn’t good enough for him. Jeez, he doesn’t even have looks. Mind you, he has some charm and a good sense of humour.’
‘Joan, you’re getting morose, have another glass.’ Jules uncorked another bottle.
‘The only saving grace in all this is that he’s fifteen years older then you.’
‘And?’
‘Well, odds are that he’ll die before you.’
Joan held her head back and laughed, it was a long drawn out belly-laugh.
‘Don’t make me laugh; he’s like a ******* robot. Do you know the only thing wrong with him is that he’s got a corn?’ She laughed out loud again then gulped her wine. She became morose again. ‘Do you know what the experts say in the scientific world? They say if one is fit by the age of eighty, there’s no reason, as to why one won’t reach ninety.’ She began to sob. ‘I can’t go another shite decade with him’
‘The booze is making you miserable Joan. You know, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be, being a widow. Ones income’s halved for starters.’
‘You’re right, I’m always bloody moaning, aren’t I? The only thing is, in ten years time, I don’t want to be sitting here wishing I’d got a life, and just crocheting antimacassars. Anyway what do you think of this idea?’ Joan lit yet another fag.
‘Let’s have a bite to eat and a nice black coffee first, don’t forget I have to drive home.’
‘Good idea.’ She glanced at the clock, ‘Pete’ll be at least another hour yet.’
Whilst they both tucked in to ham sandwiches and sipped black coffee, Joan explained a few ideas she’d come up with to enhance both hers and Jules’ lives. Her friend listened intently, eyes widening from time to time.
‘I’ll get back home now and I promise that I’ll have a good think about what we’ve discussed.’
The two women bade their goodbyes and Jules drove off, back to her bungalow a few miles away.
Joan tidied up the lounge then washed the dishes. She liked everything to be neat and tidy. The bungalow was a new build when they had bought it. Three bedrooms, a large lounge, the kitchen wasn’t small either. The gardens front, back and side were extensive and over the years the many plants and shrubs they had planted together now gave the garden a colourful, mature look. Joan’s favourite spot was where the swing seat was positioned. Under a pagoda, covered with purple and white Clematis, it gave shelter from the hottest sun and a peaceful haven away from neighbours prying eyes. She was proud of her achievements for someone stemming from a childhood of poverty; you’ve not done bad lass. She often told herself.
She heard Pete coming in after his visit to his daughter’s, well, after his night of passion rather.
‘Hi,’ she greeted him all smiles.
‘Hi,’ was his response.
‘Have a nice evening?’ She continued dusting the furniture, trying to be as nonchalant as possible.
‘Oh, it was ok, she wasn’t well enough to make us a meal so I went out for a take-away.’
Oh, yeah, a blonde-tubby-about-twenty-five-year-old one, she wanted to say but desisted.
‘When she feels better, she wants me to take her to her old school friend’s for a weekend, she lives in Newcastle.’
‘That’ll be nice for you both,’ said with just a tad of sarcasm.
‘You don’t mind, do you?’ Pete side glanced at Joan and waited for her reaction.
‘Who? Me? I’ve never restricted your movements, of course I don’t mind.’
Great stuff, she thought, now my plans can come into being, how could he moan about me travelling now? Ha. She laughed to herself, some men are so stupid.
Pete went off into his study, no doubt reliving the night of passion he’d had with his lover and dreaming about the forthcoming weekend with the slag. Joan continued with the housework whilst plotting her new life, well, he was being economical with the truth and what’s good enough for the goose is good enough for the gander, but in this case surely that should be what’s good enough for the gander is good enough for the goose. Who wrote these proverbs?
Dvorak’s Humoresque rang out. ‘Orphaned widows,’ she answered.
It was her friend Mo, crying down the phone, should she get a divorce from her lying, cheating husband. Jeez, that’s all I need. Why can’t others deal with their own nightmares? I’ve got plenty of my own to be going on with thanks.
Mo’d found a packet of condoms again in the pocket of his best suit.
Think yourself lucky he’s got the sense to use ‘em, she wanted to say but thought it too cruel.
The husband in question was six feet four, drop-dead-gorgeous and had women just drooling and dropping at his feet. Joan had wondered how long it’d be before he strayed when he took Mo to the registrars…well, it was her third marriage, (church was out of the question) but at least the ceremonies had been that close together, Joan had been able to wear the same outfit for each one.
‘Best not to worry Mo, why don’t you go out and go mad with his credit card.? That’s good therapy.’
‘You’re right Joan; I’ve seen a gorgeous leather coat and boots I like.’
‘Good, hurt his pocket. I’ll see you next week then.’
Joan replaced the receiver. Women just can’t win. Here’s an ugly old fool shagging around and there’s a handsome young fool doing the very same. Or was it the women? Why do women shag others husbands?
Sex with Pete that night was as boring as ever even though she suspected he was practicing various methods to try when screwing his tart.
Besides Joan had other things on her mind, she had dinner to cook tomorrow for four friends…vegetarian friends. What the hell can I make? Pete turned her over.
Perhaps a Soya spag bol could be the answer. Where to get Soya though? Pete’s hand was wandering. I could get some humus and tortillas, yes, that’d be nice as a starter.
Pete was reaching his climax now. Jeez, planning dinner for four is damned harder than having sex.
The following evening, Joan served up the spaghetti bolognaise. It had been simple to make and she was most impressed with the taste of the Soya meat.
Pete poured out the wine for their friends. Joan had a head start on the others; she’d partaken of a few glasses whilst preparing dinner.
The strange mixture of characters seated themselves at the table. Sebastian and wife Isabel, not their real names but they liked the sound of them. Both retired civil servants they were quite boring and staid.
Joan had thought long ago that their real names were probably Cyril and Ethel or the likes.
John and Anne, real names, he was great fun and an extravert, how he came to be married to her was always a mystery to Joan. He was still quite shaggable. John was a lawyer; she was a barmaid when they met. She sure knew what she was doing having got pregnant a couple of weeks later. They had more money than sense. Nevertheless, they were good fun and Joan liked them both, she sat with her guests. ‘Help yourselves to Parmesan and get stuck in.’
‘So, what are your plans for this summer, each and all?’ asked John.
‘Jules and me are going for a month to a nudist complex in Jamaica,’ she blurted out.
The others didn’t know whether to believe her and reacted with guffaws.
‘I’m serious. Then we plan on going to Bali for a further month, lots of nightlife there apparently.’
‘I’ve always wanted to try nudism,’ offered Sebastian.
‘You’ve never mentioned that.’ Isabel looked horrified.
Joan viewed Seb from the corner of her eye, hmm, more to him than he lets on. Dark Horse, eh?
‘When was all this arranged then?’ Pete’s eyes flared.
Oh here we go; there’ll be a few days of sulky silence now, the cheeky two-timing bastard, don’t get mad…get everything Joan, she smiled back at him. ‘Oh, it’s not been arranged yet, me and Jules were just talking about it, when you were at your…’
‘I would never go anywhere without John.’ Anne butted in.
Joan sipped her wine and eyed up John this time, I bet you wouldn’t, now if my husband was as gorgeous as him…..’More garlic bread anyone?’
‘Why don’t we all go to Jamaica?’ John took the proffered bread. ‘Sounds great fun.’
Joan bit into a chunk of bread, yeah, right; your wife’d look gorgeous nude….not.
Anne was at least eighteen stones but only five feet two. She’d had a weight problem as long as Joan could think back, well a stuffing-your-face-with-food problem more like.
She had a copycat problem too, constantly clocking the clothes Joan wore and racing down to the shops to buy duplicates. This amused Joan greatly and took it as a compliment. Sometimes and just for devilment, she would tell Anne a different shop to where she’d bought her clobber and watch her friend’s frustration when she couldn’t find replicas. Even if she did, there was no way they ever looked as good on her as on the five feet ten, slender Joan.
‘I need a facelift or something before I travel, either of you tried that crystal-blasting treatment?’
Anne looked indignant, ‘My skin doesn’t need any treatment whatsoever, and I haven’t even got any wrinkles yet.’
Oh yes you do, it’s just that the fat puffs your face out, wrinkles with it. Joan smirked to herself. Lose ten stone and your skin’d look like a bloody pachyderm’s.
‘Yes, you have beautiful skin,’ commented Isabel.
‘For her age,’ quipped John at which Anne’s face became decidedly ugly. John’s and Joan’s eyes met, she quickly looked away and bit on a gherkin to stop her bursting into laughter. That would have been the end of her and Anne. The trouble with Anne was that if she wasn’t the centre of attraction, she wasn’t playing but this sort of attention wasn’t the type intended. Joan waited for her to explode and wasn’t disappointed.
‘You’re a **** a friggin’ ****. Do you know that?’
Isabel blushed to the roots of her hair and chomped on a gherkin. These gherkins were coming in handy. Seb looked at his watch. John didn’t react; he was as used to these outbursts as were the hosts. There were a few moments silence.
‘We’re going to the Festival Hall next weekend,’ announced Seb.
‘What’s on?’ Pete asked.
‘A Beethoven concert, it should be excellent.’
‘Indeed,’ said John.
A conversation about the classics ensued. Anne went into a sulk but Joan was accustomed to that and knew that she would soon ‘come round’.
Apart from the one fracas the evening went well and it was three am before the guests left.
John had still seemed keen on the nudist holiday, as did Seb but Joan didn’t want any hangers-on, not at the launch of her new life.
Pete’s hands began to wander. Oh, no, puh-lease not at this time in the morning, does he never stop it?
This time there was no dinner for four to plan so she lay back and thought of her session at the gym and pool the next day.
The four friends relaxed in the Jacuzzi, a white wine each. This was their time to be together once a week; an hour in the gym followed by forty lengths in the pool and then a dip into the hot bubbling water for a natter. Privately owned the complex was luxurious never crowded and suited the quartet perfectly.
Anne was still reeling from the night before, ‘I’m going to really go mad with the credit card now,’ she sipped her wine.
‘Not another Prada bag, how many’s that you’ve got?’ asked Brenda.
‘Do I give a ****? I’ll buy matching shoes an’ all.’
‘He was only joking Anne,’ said Joan.
‘Yeah, well I’m teaching him not to give sly digs even in jest.’
‘Why, what did he say?’ Brenda leaned forward; she liked nothing better than a bit of gossip and others’ disharmony with one another.
‘He implied that I looked alright for my age.’
Jules glanced at Joan and they both smirked. Anne lacked self esteem and they all recognised this, it did get tiresome sometimes though, always trying to reassure her that she was a loved and treasured friend. She had more clothes in her possession than the whole of Debenham’s put together, or should that be Christian Dior or the likes, only exclusive stuff was good enough for Anne.
‘Have you seen Newbloom’s new range?’ asked Brenda enthusiastically. ‘They’ve got some gorgeous tops in.’
‘I haven’t been in recently,’ replied Joan. Newbloom wasn’t her style but did agree that the stuff was enough to pay for fashion items that were out of style within weeks. Brenda didn’t look nice in anything, at sixty four, she’d no fashion sense but none of the others had the heart to tell her. Today she’d mixed a trendy top with a 1970s skirt, and a pair of 1980s shoes. The top as usual was way too young for her and bordered on the ridiculous, she preferred sleeveless too and Joan thought there was nothing worse than having wrinkled old arms on display. Brenda and husband were vastly rich and so she got away with any look according to her, and not giving a damn for what anyone thought.
‘Anyway, I’m more interested in face treatment at the mo,’ said Joan.
‘A friend of mine has just had that…that…er, is it crystal-blasting or something?’
‘Round here, Brenda?’ Joan was keen to find out.
‘No, in London somewhere.’
‘Fancy a trip to London Jules?’ Joan and her friend chuckled.
‘I’m up for anything these days,’ she replied.
‘I’ll come with you an’ all.’
‘You said last night that you’d never go anywhere without John.’
‘I know but that were last night and I’d had a few jars,’ Anne sipped her wine. ‘Any road, I’ll be able to shop at Harrods, that’ll piss him off.’
The four left the complex and went to the nearby pub for lunch and to discuss their plans for a weekend in London.
Is this any good?/novel?
WAY TOO LONG TO READ ; O
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Chapter 1
Wow, that was some story thought Joan as she placed the paperback onto the coffee
table. The novel, Chick Lit, was not really intended for her age group, mid sixties, but she’d thoroughly enjoyed it, and why not? The elderly were just teenagers in old skin.
Joan sat back on the shiny, leather sofa and sipped her coffee. Sparked off by the contents of the book, she reflected on the fifty years she deemed wasted on two dead leg husbands.
Jeez, that’s half a century! The first, fat, flawed and futile, the second and current one, well, yes, the second and current one…
She lit a cigarette, drew heavily on it and made her mind up there and then that she was going to get a life, not just any old life, a young life, a sort of Chick Lit life, a life she’d missed out on all those years ago. Three kids before ones twenty first birthday had been far from a good starting point. Joan hadn’t been in love with him but a sexual ‘experiment’ had led to an unwanted pregnancy and society at that time made sure there were to be no single mothers. A man-child for a so called husband and an even worse mother-in-law, the type you could gladly drop into an acid bath so all trace had gone, well except for dentures.
She glanced at the calendar and pondered on a date from when her new life should begin.
But where to begin? Botox, Crystal-blast, Face-lift? I need something. It’s ok to think chick but when your skin thinks hen…there’s more lines on it than a Rhode Island road map.
Dvorak’s Humoresque belted out from the phone and penetrated Joan’s thoughts. ‘Help the aged,’ she answered.
‘Hi, it’s me.’
‘Jules! I was going to ring you but I thought you’d still be zedding it. How’d it go?’ Joan perked up at the sound of her best friend’s voice, and then realised, that her voice sounded wary.
‘You’re not going to like this Joan, are you sitting comfortably?’
For Jules to say that, the news had to be big. Joan leant against the arm of a chair.
‘Go on, what happened?’
‘She’s blonde, tubby… and wait for it…about twenty five years old.’
Joan was silent for a moment. So it was true beyond a doubt, Pete had a bit on the side. She slid down the arm of the chair to the seat. Maybe Jules had seen the evidence, but Joan herself hadn’t.
‘Get her address?’
‘Yeah, rough district, look, I’ll come across and we can chat at length. Ok?’
Joan replaced the receiver and went to the drinks cabinet. At least she’s fat. She mused.
Selecting the most expensive red, she uncorked it and poured a large, no, a very large glass. Her friend liked red too, as she always said, ‘at our age it’s good for the old arteries.’
Jules arrived in her brand new Smart car; it had made a good disguise the previous evening for tracking Peter, Joan’s husband.
‘I suspected some time ago he was playing around Jules, although, really I can’t imagine who’d fancy a clapped out eighty two year old. He’s recently invested in some new Y-fronts too, what sort of woman shags a man who wears Y-Fronts? The mind boggles.’
The second bottle of red was having a pleasant couldn’t-care-less attitude on Joan’s grey matter. She giggled along with Jules imagining Pete getting his leg over.
‘Perhaps he makes a better sugar-granddaddy than a sugar-daddy,’ she laughed.
For all the mirth, Jules could see a deep sadness behind her friend’s eyes. Pals from school days they’d stuck together over the years. They’d become more like sisters than their own sisters.
‘This isn’t the first woman Pete’s shagged but this time I want facts, enough’s enough. besides, this new sex-on-legs-cow’s had a profound effect on him.’
Basically a kind person, in recent years he’d become retaliative, sarcastic and decidedly cold in his manner towards her.
‘In the early years my ‘fiery’ nature turned him on and he even admitted that to this end he sometimes goaded me! What really bugs me as well, he used to love the way I flounced off when we rowed, he loved watching my long, dark hair swinging about. Now, he says I’m aggressive or I need anger therapy, cheeky sod, he obviously thinks silver hair isn’t good enough for him. Jeez, he doesn’t even have looks. Mind you, he has some charm and a good sense of humour.’
‘Joan, you’re getting morose, have another glass.’ Jules uncorked another bottle.
‘The only saving grace in all this is that he’s fifteen years older then you.’
‘And?’
‘Well, odds are that he’ll die before you.’
Joan held her head back and laughed, it was a long drawn out belly-laugh.
‘Don’t make me laugh; he’s like a ******* robot. Do you know the only thing wrong with him is that he’s got a corn?’ She laughed out loud again then gulped her wine. She became morose again. ‘Do you know what the experts say in the scientific world? They say if one is fit by the age of eighty, there’s no reason, as to why one won’t reach ninety.’ She began to sob. ‘I can’t go another shite decade with him’
‘The booze is making you miserable Joan. You know, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be, being a widow. Ones income’s halved for starters.’
‘You’re right, I’m always bloody moaning, aren’t I? The only thing is, in ten years time, I don’t want to be sitting here wishing I’d got a life, and just crocheting antimacassars. Anyway what do you think of this idea?’ Joan lit yet another fag.
‘Let’s have a bite to eat and a nice black coffee first, don’t forget I have to drive home.’
‘Good idea.’ She glanced at the clock, ‘Pete’ll be at least another hour yet.’
Whilst they both tucked in to ham sandwiches and sipped black coffee, Joan explained a few ideas she’d come up with to enhance both hers and Jules’ lives. Her friend listened intently, eyes widening from time to time.
‘I’ll get back home now and I promise that I’ll have a good think about what we’ve discussed.’
The two women bade their goodbyes and Jules drove off, back to her bungalow a few miles away.
Joan tidied up the lounge then washed the dishes. She liked everything to be neat and tidy. The bungalow was a new build when they had bought it. Three bedrooms, a large lounge, the kitchen wasn’t small either. The gardens front, back and side were extensive and over the years the many plants and shrubs they had planted together now gave the garden a colourful, mature look. Joan’s favourite spot was where the swing seat was positioned. Under a pagoda, covered with purple and white Clematis, it gave shelter from the hottest sun and a peaceful haven away from neighbours prying eyes. She was proud of her achievements for someone stemming from a childhood of poverty; you’ve not done bad lass. She often told herself.
She heard Pete coming in after his visit to his daughter’s, well, after his night of passion rather.
‘Hi,’ she greeted him all smiles.
‘Hi,’ was his response.
‘Have a nice evening?’ She continued dusting the furniture, trying to be as nonchalant as possible.
‘Oh, it was ok, she wasn’t well enough to make us a meal so I went out for a take-away.’
Oh, yeah, a blonde-tubby-about-twenty-five-year-old one, she wanted to say but desisted.
‘When she feels better, she wants me to take her to her old school friend’s for a weekend, she lives in Newcastle.’
‘That’ll be nice for you both,’ said with just a tad of sarcasm.
‘You don’t mind, do you?’ Pete side glanced at Joan and waited for her reaction.
‘Who? Me? I’ve never restricted your movements, of course I don’t mind.’
Great stuff, she thought, now my plans can come into being, how could he moan about me travelling now? Ha. She laughed to herself, some men are so stupid.
Pete went off into his study, no doubt reliving the night of passion he’d had with his lover and dreaming about the forthcoming weekend with the slag. Joan continued with the housework whilst plotting her new life, well, he was being economical with the truth and what’s good enough for the goose is good enough for the gander, but in this case surely that should be what’s good enough for the gander is good enough for the goose. Who wrote these proverbs?
Dvorak’s Humoresque rang out. ‘Orphaned widows,’ she answered.
It was her friend Mo, crying down the phone, should she get a divorce from her lying, cheating husband. Jeez, that’s all I need. Why can’t others deal with their own nightmares? I’ve got plenty of my own to be going on with thanks.
Mo’d found a packet of condoms again in the pocket of his best suit.
Think yourself lucky he’s got the sense to use ‘em, she wanted to say but thought it too cruel.
The husband in question was six feet four, drop-dead-gorgeous and had women just drooling and dropping at his feet. Joan had wondered how long it’d be before he strayed when he took Mo to the registrars…well, it was her third marriage, (church was out of the question) but at least the ceremonies had been that close together, Joan had been able to wear the same outfit for each one.
‘Best not to worry Mo, why don’t you go out and go mad with his credit card.? That’s good therapy.’
‘You’re right Joan; I’ve seen a gorgeous leather coat and boots I like.’
‘Good, hurt his pocket. I’ll see you next week then.’
Joan replaced the receiver. Women just can’t win. Here’s an ugly old fool shagging around and there’s a handsome young fool doing the very same. Or was it the women? Why do women shag others husbands?
Sex with Pete that night was as boring as ever even though she suspected he was practicing various methods to try when screwing his tart.
Besides Joan had other things on her mind, she had dinner to cook tomorrow for four friends…vegetarian friends. What the hell can I make? Pete turned her over.
Perhaps a Soya spag bol could be the answer. Where to get Soya though? Pete’s hand was wandering. I could get some humus and tortillas, yes, that’d be nice as a starter.
Pete was reaching his climax now. Jeez, planning dinner for four is damned harder than having sex.
The following evening, Joan served up the spaghetti bolognaise. It had been simple to make and she was most impressed with the taste of the Soya meat.
Pete poured out the wine for their friends. Joan had a head start on the others; she’d partaken of a few glasses whilst preparing dinner.
The strange mixture of characters seated themselves at the table. Sebastian and wife Isabel, not their real names but they liked the sound of them. Both retired civil servants they were quite boring and staid.
Joan had thought long ago that their real names were probably Cyril and Ethel or the likes.
John and Anne, real names, he was great fun and an extravert, how he came to be married to her was always a mystery to Joan. He was still quite shaggable. John was a lawyer; she was a barmaid when they met. She sure knew what she was doing having got pregnant a couple of weeks later. They had more money than sense. Nevertheless, they were good fun and Joan liked them both, she sat with her guests. ‘Help yourselves to Parmesan and get stuck in.’
‘So, what are your plans for this summer, each and all?’ asked John.
‘Jules and me are going for a month to a nudist complex in Jamaica,’ she blurted out.
The others didn’t know whether to believe her and reacted with guffaws.
‘I’m serious. Then we plan on going to Bali for a further month, lots of nightlife there apparently.’
‘I’ve always wanted to try nudism,’ offered Sebastian.
‘You’ve never mentioned that.’ Isabel looked horrified.
Joan viewed Seb from the corner of her eye, hmm, more to him than he lets on. Dark Horse, eh?
‘When was all this arranged then?’ Pete’s eyes flared.
Oh here we go; there’ll be a few days of sulky silence now, the cheeky two-timing bastard, don’t get mad…get everything Joan, she smiled back at him. ‘Oh, it’s not been arranged yet, me and Jules were just talking about it, when you were at your…’
‘I would never go anywhere without John.’ Anne butted in.
Joan sipped her wine and eyed up John this time, I bet you wouldn’t, now if my husband was as gorgeous as him…..’More garlic bread anyone?’
‘Why don’t we all go to Jamaica?’ John took the proffered bread. ‘Sounds great fun.’
Joan bit into a chunk of bread, yeah, right; your wife’d look gorgeous nude….not.
Anne was at least eighteen stones but only five feet two. She’d had a weight problem as long as Joan could think back, well a stuffing-your-face-with-food problem more like.
She had a copycat problem too, constantly clocking the clothes Joan wore and racing down to the shops to buy duplicates. This amused Joan greatly and took it as a compliment. Sometimes and just for devilment, she would tell Anne a different shop to where she’d bought her clobber and watch her friend’s frustration when she couldn’t find replicas. Even if she did, there was no way they ever looked as good on her as on the five feet ten, slender Joan.
‘I need a facelift or something before I travel, either of you tried that crystal-blasting treatment?’
Anne looked indignant, ‘My skin doesn’t need any treatment whatsoever, and I haven’t even got any wrinkles yet.’
Oh yes you do, it’s just that the fat puffs your face out, wrinkles with it. Joan smirked to herself. Lose ten stone and your skin’d look like a bloody pachyderm’s.
‘Yes, you have beautiful skin,’ commented Isabel.
‘For her age,’ quipped John at which Anne’s face became decidedly ugly. John’s and Joan’s eyes met, she quickly looked away and bit on a gherkin to stop her bursting into laughter. That would have been the end of her and Anne. The trouble with Anne was that if she wasn’t the centre of attraction, she wasn’t playing but this sort of attention wasn’t the type intended. Joan waited for her to explode and wasn’t disappointed.
‘You’re a **** a friggin’ ****. Do you know that?’
Isabel blushed to the roots of her hair and chomped on a gherkin. These gherkins were coming in handy. Seb looked at his watch. John didn’t react; he was as used to these outbursts as were the hosts. There were a few moments silence.
‘We’re going to the Festival Hall next weekend,’ announced Seb.
‘What’s on?’ Pete asked.
‘A Beethoven concert, it should be excellent.’
‘Indeed,’ said John.
A conversation about the classics ensued. Anne went into a sulk but Joan was accustomed to that and knew that she would soon ‘come round’.
Apart from the one fracas the evening went well and it was three am before the guests left.
John had still seemed keen on the nudist holiday, as did Seb but Joan didn’t want any hangers-on, not at the launch of her new life.
Pete’s hands began to wander. Oh, no, puh-lease not at this time in the morning, does he never stop it?
This time there was no dinner for four to plan so she lay back and thought of her session at the gym and pool the next day.
The four friends relaxed in the Jacuzzi, a white wine each. This was their time to be together once a week; an hour in the gym followed by forty lengths in the pool and then a dip into the hot bubbling water for a natter. Privately owned the complex was luxurious never crowded and suited the quartet perfectly.
Anne was still reeling from the night before, ‘I’m going to really go mad with the credit card now,’ she sipped her wine.
‘Not another Prada bag, how many’s that you’ve got?’ asked Brenda.
‘Do I give a ****? I’ll buy matching shoes an’ all.’
‘He was only joking Anne,’ said Joan.
‘Yeah, well I’m teaching him not to give sly digs even in jest.’
‘Why, what did he say?’ Brenda leaned forward; she liked nothing better than a bit of gossip and others’ disharmony with one another.
‘He implied that I looked alright for my age.’
Jules glanced at Joan and they both smirked. Anne lacked self esteem and they all recognised this, it did get tiresome sometimes though, always trying to reassure her that she was a loved and treasured friend. She had more clothes in her possession than the whole of Debenham’s put together, or should that be Christian Dior or the likes, only exclusive stuff was good enough for Anne.
‘Have you seen Newbloom’s new range?’ asked Brenda enthusiastically. ‘They’ve got some gorgeous tops in.’
‘I haven’t been in recently,’ replied Joan. Newbloom wasn’t her style but did agree that the stuff was enough to pay for fashion items that were out of style within weeks. Brenda didn’t look nice in anything, at sixty four, she’d no fashion sense but none of the others had the heart to tell her. Today she’d mixed a trendy top with a 1970s skirt, and a pair of 1980s shoes. The top as usual was way too young for her and bordered on the ridiculous, she preferred sleeveless too and Joan thought there was nothing worse than having wrinkled old arms on display. Brenda and husband were vastly rich and so she got away with any look according to her, and not giving a damn for what anyone thought.
‘Anyway, I’m more interested in face treatment at the mo,’ said Joan.
‘A friend of mine has just had that…that…er, is it crystal-blasting or something?’
‘Round here, Brenda?’ Joan was keen to find out.
‘No, in London somewhere.’
‘Fancy a trip to London Jules?’ Joan and her friend chuckled.
‘I’m up for anything these days,’ she replied.
‘I’ll come with you an’ all.’
‘You said last night that you’d never go anywhere without John.’
‘I know but that were last night and I’d had a few jars,’ Anne sipped her wine. ‘Any road, I’ll be able to shop at Harrods, that’ll piss him off.’
The four left the complex and went to the nearby pub for lunch and to discuss their plans for a weekend in London.
Is this any good?/novel?
WAY TOO LONG TO READ ; O
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My Jack Russell wont let me sleep at night ... please help!?
I got a JRT (Buster) from the re-homing centre on Thursday evening, he's 7 months old, and his background is, he was found in an empty house back in March, he's a lovely little dog, extremely lively... But he wont leave my side, not for a second, i live in a ground floor 1 bedroom flat, i'm currently going through the potty training thing too, as at the moment he's wee'ing and poo'ing where ever he pleases, but the most annoying thing is that we'll go out for a long walk, and he wont do either, he'll wait till he comes back to the house, then pee or poo on the carpet, i've even tried leaving him on the leash, running through the house to the back garden hoping he'll go there, but no, he'll only do it inside the house ... I've tried ignoring him, no eye contact etc... but he just thinks i'm playing with him and barks more....
The other thing which is really getting me down, is the fact that he starts barking and howling if i attempt to lock him in the kitchen at night, if i lived in a house this wouldn't be a problem, but i have neighbours living upstairs with a small child, as you can imagine, they're less than impressed with this at 1am... So i thought, ok, i'll let him sleep next to the bed, but he wont stay on the floor, he'll jump on the bed, and start rubbing himself all over it. Each time i grab him by the collar, put him back on the floor, and tell him very sternly "NO", but he just barks at me, thinking i'm playing with him, and as soon as i let him go, he runs around the bed and jumps up again
I'm at my wits end, the only time he'll relax, is if i'm laying on the sofa, and he's laying on the floor next to me, but i find it really hard to sleep on the sofa, i've had less than 8 hrs sleep in the last 3 days, i'm so tired ... Anyone got any ideas how i can change this behaviour, i dont want to have to take him back to the centre, as i'm sure he'll be a great little dog if trained properly .. any help would be much appreciated...
My Jack Russell wont let me sleep at night ... please help!?
Bless him, he's a handsome little fella isn't he? Considering his background, being left in am empty house etc, he thinks its ok to go to the toilet indoors - there was no-one there to tell him otherwise! He's grown attached to you because you've been so very kind to him, he feels safe with you, knows he won't be hit or abused and wants to be with you 24/7 so he knows he'll be ok but its affecting your health and needs to stop! I'd advise a training school, they do them locally ( check your local paper or ring your vet for more details ) and are not expensive. Until then i'd advise keeping him out until he 'goes' or, when you get in from a walk and he starts sniffing around for a place to 'go', take him straight back out and wait until he does it - praise him like a loon when he does and he'll know that it pleases you so will want to do it again! Its hard work house training a puppy but you WILL get there - there is light at the end of the tunnel ha ha. Please persevere - in time you'll wonder what your life was like before he came into it, they change you and enrich your life in so many ways! I have a Jack, my first and i don't know what i'd do without him, he's so lovely, lively and funny! Best of luck to you both and well done you for adopting him!
Reply:Kennel train him.
http://www.perfectpaws.com/mmd.html
Reply:Get him a crate and make him sleep in it. Try putting him in it during the day for small amounts of time and rewarding him when he doesn't bark.
Keep him confined in the house to a small pen in the kitchen until he can control himself. When he goes out don't "walk him" but take him to the same spot every time and tell him to "pee" and "poop" and reward him with praise when he does.
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The other thing which is really getting me down, is the fact that he starts barking and howling if i attempt to lock him in the kitchen at night, if i lived in a house this wouldn't be a problem, but i have neighbours living upstairs with a small child, as you can imagine, they're less than impressed with this at 1am... So i thought, ok, i'll let him sleep next to the bed, but he wont stay on the floor, he'll jump on the bed, and start rubbing himself all over it. Each time i grab him by the collar, put him back on the floor, and tell him very sternly "NO", but he just barks at me, thinking i'm playing with him, and as soon as i let him go, he runs around the bed and jumps up again
I'm at my wits end, the only time he'll relax, is if i'm laying on the sofa, and he's laying on the floor next to me, but i find it really hard to sleep on the sofa, i've had less than 8 hrs sleep in the last 3 days, i'm so tired ... Anyone got any ideas how i can change this behaviour, i dont want to have to take him back to the centre, as i'm sure he'll be a great little dog if trained properly .. any help would be much appreciated...
My Jack Russell wont let me sleep at night ... please help!?
Bless him, he's a handsome little fella isn't he? Considering his background, being left in am empty house etc, he thinks its ok to go to the toilet indoors - there was no-one there to tell him otherwise! He's grown attached to you because you've been so very kind to him, he feels safe with you, knows he won't be hit or abused and wants to be with you 24/7 so he knows he'll be ok but its affecting your health and needs to stop! I'd advise a training school, they do them locally ( check your local paper or ring your vet for more details ) and are not expensive. Until then i'd advise keeping him out until he 'goes' or, when you get in from a walk and he starts sniffing around for a place to 'go', take him straight back out and wait until he does it - praise him like a loon when he does and he'll know that it pleases you so will want to do it again! Its hard work house training a puppy but you WILL get there - there is light at the end of the tunnel ha ha. Please persevere - in time you'll wonder what your life was like before he came into it, they change you and enrich your life in so many ways! I have a Jack, my first and i don't know what i'd do without him, he's so lovely, lively and funny! Best of luck to you both and well done you for adopting him!
Reply:Kennel train him.
http://www.perfectpaws.com/mmd.html
Reply:Get him a crate and make him sleep in it. Try putting him in it during the day for small amounts of time and rewarding him when he doesn't bark.
Keep him confined in the house to a small pen in the kitchen until he can control himself. When he goes out don't "walk him" but take him to the same spot every time and tell him to "pee" and "poop" and reward him with praise when he does.
Cat behaviour problems following death of second cat?
I adopted 2 male neutered cats from a rescue centre 2 months ago. They were already a pair but completely different cats to look at - one is tabby and white, sinewy and muscly (Arthur) and the other a black and white moggy (Harry). Unfortunately, Harry was killed in a RTA last week and although I feel devastated inside, I am getting on with things because Arthur was showing signs of being affected by my sadness.
But Arthur is missing his playmate - they were both 10 months - 1 year old so would chase each other round the house and garden for hours at a time. Arthur has a lot of energy and although I am playing with him for up to 3 hours a day, it doesn't seem enough for him. He cries and talks a lot and has also stopped going into the garden (although he will sit at the open back door looking out and go out for a brief time if I am there). He is eating OK.
Should I be thinking about a new companion for him already?
Cat behaviour problems following death of second cat?
My condolenses on the loss of your cat Harry. Cats do grieve for the loss of a close companion, and whilst getting another cat might seem like a good idea, it might be best to wait a little bit. It's Harry that he misses, and with them being territorial creatures, any new cat would initially be seen as an intruder, which may just stress him. "When Cats Grieve" has lots of information and advice that you may find helpful.
http://www.messybeast.com/cat-grief.htm
When you decide that you are both ready for a new cat, you might find these articles on introducing a new cat helpful.
http://www.tulsa-animalshelter.org/tips/...
http://www.messybeast.com/first-impressi...
Reply:I am sorry for your loss. My Gilbert lost his littermate sister when they were nine months old and he still is grieving at fourteen months, but he is MUCH happer now. I got him two new kittens to keep him company and at first he ignored them, but now runs with them, they groom each other, jumps and they are brothers and sister now. Cats do love their mates, just as we do, and have so much emotion and memory that it is aching to watch, but part of life. Give Arthur lots and lots of attention and love until you are ready to get another cat. Some people recommend an older cat close to his age and others a kitten. I just love starting from scratch with a kitten and they grow big so fast. It is up to you and you will know when it is time. You never replace the deceased kitty, but it is so wonderful to learn to love a new kitty and so will Arthur. If he does not, at least he will have company in the house when you are gone. I hope you are both well.
Reply:it might help him get one simalar age which is neutered and has been with other cats
Reply:well my cat hated our new dog at first but then time together they became best friends so wen we gave the dog away our cat was always expecting him to come home...i remember one time we had to look after my aunts dog who looks lik my old dog (a yr after we gave my dog away) and my cat came running and then relized it wasnt our dog and run the other direction then a few yrs a go we got another cat and my cat wasnt happy at first and now the still fight put its just something cats do and their more close now and snuggle on the coach togther so wat i'm sayin is that if you get a cat now or a cat in 5yrs from now...they just need time to get along
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss...Let your cat mourn for the meantime.At least he's still alive.
(my mom had two loving and beautiful siamese cats, male and the other female. when the female died, the male cat practically committed suicide by ingesting some chemical fertilizer.)
when you're thinking of getting another companion for Arthur, do not expect it to replace Harry.
Rather, have the pleasure of appreciating that all cats are unique. :)
But Arthur is missing his playmate - they were both 10 months - 1 year old so would chase each other round the house and garden for hours at a time. Arthur has a lot of energy and although I am playing with him for up to 3 hours a day, it doesn't seem enough for him. He cries and talks a lot and has also stopped going into the garden (although he will sit at the open back door looking out and go out for a brief time if I am there). He is eating OK.
Should I be thinking about a new companion for him already?
Cat behaviour problems following death of second cat?
My condolenses on the loss of your cat Harry. Cats do grieve for the loss of a close companion, and whilst getting another cat might seem like a good idea, it might be best to wait a little bit. It's Harry that he misses, and with them being territorial creatures, any new cat would initially be seen as an intruder, which may just stress him. "When Cats Grieve" has lots of information and advice that you may find helpful.
http://www.messybeast.com/cat-grief.htm
When you decide that you are both ready for a new cat, you might find these articles on introducing a new cat helpful.
http://www.tulsa-animalshelter.org/tips/...
http://www.messybeast.com/first-impressi...
Reply:I am sorry for your loss. My Gilbert lost his littermate sister when they were nine months old and he still is grieving at fourteen months, but he is MUCH happer now. I got him two new kittens to keep him company and at first he ignored them, but now runs with them, they groom each other, jumps and they are brothers and sister now. Cats do love their mates, just as we do, and have so much emotion and memory that it is aching to watch, but part of life. Give Arthur lots and lots of attention and love until you are ready to get another cat. Some people recommend an older cat close to his age and others a kitten. I just love starting from scratch with a kitten and they grow big so fast. It is up to you and you will know when it is time. You never replace the deceased kitty, but it is so wonderful to learn to love a new kitty and so will Arthur. If he does not, at least he will have company in the house when you are gone. I hope you are both well.
Reply:it might help him get one simalar age which is neutered and has been with other cats
Reply:well my cat hated our new dog at first but then time together they became best friends so wen we gave the dog away our cat was always expecting him to come home...i remember one time we had to look after my aunts dog who looks lik my old dog (a yr after we gave my dog away) and my cat came running and then relized it wasnt our dog and run the other direction then a few yrs a go we got another cat and my cat wasnt happy at first and now the still fight put its just something cats do and their more close now and snuggle on the coach togther so wat i'm sayin is that if you get a cat now or a cat in 5yrs from now...they just need time to get along
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss...Let your cat mourn for the meantime.At least he's still alive.
(my mom had two loving and beautiful siamese cats, male and the other female. when the female died, the male cat practically committed suicide by ingesting some chemical fertilizer.)
when you're thinking of getting another companion for Arthur, do not expect it to replace Harry.
Rather, have the pleasure of appreciating that all cats are unique. :)
Which is the best trip have you undertaken till date ?
Hampi was not on our radar, while traveling to Chitradurga Fort, we planned for just a weekend getaway from Bangalore by car. After finishing the trip to Kalline Kote, we instinctively decided why not rush to Hampi? It is just 150 kms away, with small stretch of 18 kms of bad road before Kudilgi on NH 13.
I happened to visit during 1978 along with my parents. In those days, it was typical village with a rustic atmosphere. There was not much interest among the tourist to visit this place, which was known as ruined city, without any guide we wandered cluelessly and we landed in the peak of summer to add to our discomfort. The only distinct memory was that of Inverted Gopuram of Virupakasha temple.
After a gap of nearly 30 years I find that a new civilization has emerged. Perhaps after Hampi being declared a world heritage site in 1987, a mind blowing transformation has taken place at Hampi. It is as if history is being re-written, with guides, autorikshaw round trip, bike guides, and professional tour operators unleashing knowledge to tourists.
There are exists lot of similarities between POMPEII %26amp; HAMPI. The common features are :
1. Road Network 2. Water Management 3. Temple construction 4. Public functions 5. Common Bath 6. Cultural Festivity 7 Art %26amp; Sculpture 8. Well defined markets.9 Brothels Lane.
Trading activity were carried out between various parts of the world in both the periods. We find gems %26amp; jewellery being traded in the bazaars. All household articles such as pottery, grains, vegetables, fruits, beetlenut, flowers etc were being traded. Further brothel lanes were located in the bazaar for the visitors and artisans from outstation.
Our first point of visit was Virupaksha temple which was guided by a foreigner, because we ignored the offer to be guided @ Rs 400/- for a trip, which we thought was exhorbitant. We entered the Virupaksha temple without any enterance fee ( between 6.30 to 8 am it is free entry) The sheer grandeur started unraveling. On the left there is a sanctum which is occupied by tourists for changeover, which is really surprising. The main temple is dedicated to Lord Shiva, who is supposed to have been captivated by the dedication of Pampadevi. Lord Shiva consented to marry Pampa in his avatar as Virupaksha, the presiding deity.
Behind the Virupaksha temple lies a room wherein we can view the inverted image of the main tower through a pin hole. It is application of Periscope principle.
The bazaar in front of the Virupakasha temple is proposed to be shifted to another place to maintain the heritage look. The proposed shopping centre will be the main reporting centre for Hampi excursion. An organized trip with eco friendly mode of transport would be ideal. Further a fixed guide charges would be also be ideal depending on no of spots toured or time spent concept.
After Virupaksha temple visit we walked across a lane adjescent to the right, just on a blinder, towards Hemkunta hill. Here one is astounded by the skills of rock carving work station.. It is like a canvas on which artist exhibits his painting. The granite was the main raw material for most types of monumental construction at the site – which was abundant in and around Hampi for over 200 kms. Traditionally, granite blocks were split by first cutting rows of closely spaced cubical holes into which wooden wedges were pounded. When wetted, the wedges expanded, thereby propagating deep cracks through the stone which split as per dimension required by the artisans.
We found almost four temples, one was literally filled with water on the entrance, and other not so prominent temples, maybe created for low strata people of the times, even the poojary of the temple just gave us some insight, for which he was suitably tipped. The overnight heavy rain had made the rocky surface quite slippery, it was an adventure to climb Hemkunta hillock. The entire Hampi area, is visible in all its panaromic view. There is an acropolis type of two storey structure maybe for the kings to view. There is no description on this monument to my surprise.
Once you start climbing down the steps which is neatly chiseled on the rocks it is adventurers delight, a neat landscaped garden leads to Sasvikalu Ganesha. It is a monolithic exposure of Lord Ganesha which is barricaded to prevent vandalism.
Next we walk across we, come to Dodda Ganesh, which is again vandalized by Sultans, it is now a crude form, luckily the sanctum and veranda in not pillaged, the sculptures are exhuberance of dance and drama of the bygone era. Ugra Narasimha monolithic statue is located nearby along with Badavi Linga installed by a poor women.
We got to know that autorikshaw guides are available @ Rs 250/- to take us around and we decided to hire such a guide. He spent 3 hours taking us around all the important landmark starting from Hemkunt Dodda Kalu Ganesh, Sasive Ganesh, Ugra Narasimha, Badavi Linga, Veerabhadra Temple, Lotus Mahal, Elephant’s Stable, Mahanavami Dibba, Hazaar Rama Temple %26amp; Vittala Temple.
At the Mahanavmi Dibba, a celebration for Nine days was unfolded by the royalty. The king witnessed the cultural programmes such as folk dances, puppet show, fancy dress, fireworks, military parade, procession of horses and elephants, beginning with pooja to lord Durga. Even today the Government of Karnataka is trying to recreate the tradition of Vijayanagar empire by organizing HAMPI UTSAV in November first week every year.
The Sultans wanted to build their own architectural edifice to match Vijaynagar rulers, Lotus Mahal, a summer resting palace was created. It had its own pond to cool the surroundings. Behind the Lotus Mahal, Elephant stables in 11 domed structure is built to house the royal animal. Once again this area is barricaded for renovation. Behind this stable if one is adventurous one can go on a trek to visit a temple winding into a mini forest. There is a small temple by the side of Lotus temple which on the outer wall of Lotus Mahal.
After disposing the auto guide. We visited independently visited the balance places Sri Krishna temple, where one notices the vandalism of Sultans, who literally burnt down the temple along with people. It is rarely visited by tourist, the sculpture work is marvelous.
Then went around back to Hazaar Rama temple, which is the ultimate exposure of the skills of the artisans on rock hewn walls, temples and pillars. It is a culmination of the golden era of Vijaynagar empire. It looks as if the Kings got into a mode of celeberation of life, without warfare. We find scenes from the epics Ramayana, hunting scenes, battleground warfare, courtesans entertaining the kings, hunting scene in olden days and in general description of all day to day events in the life of the royalty.
The underground Shiva temple is a marvel. It is fed by water channels, which have entered the temple premises due to lack of conservation effort. Will ASI do some quick thinking otherwise it meet the fate of Musical pillar at Vittala temple.
Museum at Kamalapura houses some of the restored sculptures and various other pieces of artwork is stored. Many foreign travelers scourge HAMPI in their quest for the hidden treasures of HAMPI by camping months together. Someday, someone is bound to hit the jackpot. Till then Hampi literally rocks.
Which is the best trip have you undertaken till date ?
My best trip? Living and cruising for a year on a sailboat.
Reply:The best summer camp is held by Maitri Groups in April from 16th to 19th and from 23rd to 26th for the children. Any other further details plz contact us on 9892180802/9819203553 Report Abuse
Reply:You don't actually think anyone read this do you ?:))
Reply:I didn't read all that, but my answer: I slept outside!
Exciting, right?
Reply:jeeze you didn't expect us to read all that? me - russia, 1984
Reply:For me It was Shimla(Himalayan Hill Station)....2006 it was awesome
Cheers
Reply:Europe and North Africa were awesome!
Reply:i went to hong kong in 2002, i loved it! wanna maybe live there oneday.
Reply:Its too bad of u i can not able to read all those thing but anyway my answer is i went to hong kong in 2002.it was nice place to see
Reply:Zero
Reply:A month back I went to VAranasi,GAya,and Haridwar all nice places,recently I had been to Rameswaram that is also nice.
Reply:My best trip ever was the delhi trip.Not only Delhi but manali,chandighar,banglore,hyderabad etc
I happened to visit during 1978 along with my parents. In those days, it was typical village with a rustic atmosphere. There was not much interest among the tourist to visit this place, which was known as ruined city, without any guide we wandered cluelessly and we landed in the peak of summer to add to our discomfort. The only distinct memory was that of Inverted Gopuram of Virupakasha temple.
After a gap of nearly 30 years I find that a new civilization has emerged. Perhaps after Hampi being declared a world heritage site in 1987, a mind blowing transformation has taken place at Hampi. It is as if history is being re-written, with guides, autorikshaw round trip, bike guides, and professional tour operators unleashing knowledge to tourists.
There are exists lot of similarities between POMPEII %26amp; HAMPI. The common features are :
1. Road Network 2. Water Management 3. Temple construction 4. Public functions 5. Common Bath 6. Cultural Festivity 7 Art %26amp; Sculpture 8. Well defined markets.9 Brothels Lane.
Trading activity were carried out between various parts of the world in both the periods. We find gems %26amp; jewellery being traded in the bazaars. All household articles such as pottery, grains, vegetables, fruits, beetlenut, flowers etc were being traded. Further brothel lanes were located in the bazaar for the visitors and artisans from outstation.
Our first point of visit was Virupaksha temple which was guided by a foreigner, because we ignored the offer to be guided @ Rs 400/- for a trip, which we thought was exhorbitant. We entered the Virupaksha temple without any enterance fee ( between 6.30 to 8 am it is free entry) The sheer grandeur started unraveling. On the left there is a sanctum which is occupied by tourists for changeover, which is really surprising. The main temple is dedicated to Lord Shiva, who is supposed to have been captivated by the dedication of Pampadevi. Lord Shiva consented to marry Pampa in his avatar as Virupaksha, the presiding deity.
Behind the Virupaksha temple lies a room wherein we can view the inverted image of the main tower through a pin hole. It is application of Periscope principle.
The bazaar in front of the Virupakasha temple is proposed to be shifted to another place to maintain the heritage look. The proposed shopping centre will be the main reporting centre for Hampi excursion. An organized trip with eco friendly mode of transport would be ideal. Further a fixed guide charges would be also be ideal depending on no of spots toured or time spent concept.
After Virupaksha temple visit we walked across a lane adjescent to the right, just on a blinder, towards Hemkunta hill. Here one is astounded by the skills of rock carving work station.. It is like a canvas on which artist exhibits his painting. The granite was the main raw material for most types of monumental construction at the site – which was abundant in and around Hampi for over 200 kms. Traditionally, granite blocks were split by first cutting rows of closely spaced cubical holes into which wooden wedges were pounded. When wetted, the wedges expanded, thereby propagating deep cracks through the stone which split as per dimension required by the artisans.
We found almost four temples, one was literally filled with water on the entrance, and other not so prominent temples, maybe created for low strata people of the times, even the poojary of the temple just gave us some insight, for which he was suitably tipped. The overnight heavy rain had made the rocky surface quite slippery, it was an adventure to climb Hemkunta hillock. The entire Hampi area, is visible in all its panaromic view. There is an acropolis type of two storey structure maybe for the kings to view. There is no description on this monument to my surprise.
Once you start climbing down the steps which is neatly chiseled on the rocks it is adventurers delight, a neat landscaped garden leads to Sasvikalu Ganesha. It is a monolithic exposure of Lord Ganesha which is barricaded to prevent vandalism.
Next we walk across we, come to Dodda Ganesh, which is again vandalized by Sultans, it is now a crude form, luckily the sanctum and veranda in not pillaged, the sculptures are exhuberance of dance and drama of the bygone era. Ugra Narasimha monolithic statue is located nearby along with Badavi Linga installed by a poor women.
We got to know that autorikshaw guides are available @ Rs 250/- to take us around and we decided to hire such a guide. He spent 3 hours taking us around all the important landmark starting from Hemkunt Dodda Kalu Ganesh, Sasive Ganesh, Ugra Narasimha, Badavi Linga, Veerabhadra Temple, Lotus Mahal, Elephant’s Stable, Mahanavami Dibba, Hazaar Rama Temple %26amp; Vittala Temple.
At the Mahanavmi Dibba, a celebration for Nine days was unfolded by the royalty. The king witnessed the cultural programmes such as folk dances, puppet show, fancy dress, fireworks, military parade, procession of horses and elephants, beginning with pooja to lord Durga. Even today the Government of Karnataka is trying to recreate the tradition of Vijayanagar empire by organizing HAMPI UTSAV in November first week every year.
The Sultans wanted to build their own architectural edifice to match Vijaynagar rulers, Lotus Mahal, a summer resting palace was created. It had its own pond to cool the surroundings. Behind the Lotus Mahal, Elephant stables in 11 domed structure is built to house the royal animal. Once again this area is barricaded for renovation. Behind this stable if one is adventurous one can go on a trek to visit a temple winding into a mini forest. There is a small temple by the side of Lotus temple which on the outer wall of Lotus Mahal.
After disposing the auto guide. We visited independently visited the balance places Sri Krishna temple, where one notices the vandalism of Sultans, who literally burnt down the temple along with people. It is rarely visited by tourist, the sculpture work is marvelous.
Then went around back to Hazaar Rama temple, which is the ultimate exposure of the skills of the artisans on rock hewn walls, temples and pillars. It is a culmination of the golden era of Vijaynagar empire. It looks as if the Kings got into a mode of celeberation of life, without warfare. We find scenes from the epics Ramayana, hunting scenes, battleground warfare, courtesans entertaining the kings, hunting scene in olden days and in general description of all day to day events in the life of the royalty.
The underground Shiva temple is a marvel. It is fed by water channels, which have entered the temple premises due to lack of conservation effort. Will ASI do some quick thinking otherwise it meet the fate of Musical pillar at Vittala temple.
Museum at Kamalapura houses some of the restored sculptures and various other pieces of artwork is stored. Many foreign travelers scourge HAMPI in their quest for the hidden treasures of HAMPI by camping months together. Someday, someone is bound to hit the jackpot. Till then Hampi literally rocks.
Which is the best trip have you undertaken till date ?
My best trip? Living and cruising for a year on a sailboat.
Reply:The best summer camp is held by Maitri Groups in April from 16th to 19th and from 23rd to 26th for the children. Any other further details plz contact us on 9892180802/9819203553 Report Abuse
Reply:You don't actually think anyone read this do you ?:))
Reply:I didn't read all that, but my answer: I slept outside!
Exciting, right?
Reply:jeeze you didn't expect us to read all that? me - russia, 1984
Reply:For me It was Shimla(Himalayan Hill Station)....2006 it was awesome
Cheers
Reply:Europe and North Africa were awesome!
Reply:i went to hong kong in 2002, i loved it! wanna maybe live there oneday.
Reply:Its too bad of u i can not able to read all those thing but anyway my answer is i went to hong kong in 2002.it was nice place to see
Reply:Zero
Reply:A month back I went to VAranasi,GAya,and Haridwar all nice places,recently I had been to Rameswaram that is also nice.
Reply:My best trip ever was the delhi trip.Not only Delhi but manali,chandighar,banglore,hyderabad etc
House swap from sherborne(dorset) to weymouth(dorset)?
Hi i have a 2 bedroom flat with 2 BIG gardens (for your own use) and im looking for a 2/3 bedroom house in weymouth(doreset) with middle size garden , would anyone be able to find any people will be intrested swaping to sherborne ?(dorset) my flat is near a primary school and a secondary school,not to far from shops ,5 minute walk from town centre peacefull atmosphere all the time .gas centrel heating,BRAND NEW kitchen and bathroom overall a good size flat
thanks .
House swap from sherborne(dorset) to weymouth(dorset)?
what
buckles
thanks .
House swap from sherborne(dorset) to weymouth(dorset)?
what
buckles
I wrote a short story for school. Please read and tell me what you think!!!!?
Imagine
I gazed out of the window, my eyes immediately transfixed on the beautiful bird outside. It stood in the centre of the lawn, its feathers glistening with the light from the sun. Its wings shone with an array of colours and at the tip of each one there was a thin gold tint. I stared vividly as it ruffled its head into one of its wings, sometimes completely vanishing out of view and then reappearing with chunks of feathers in its beak. It almost seemed like it was dancing and I tried to picture it surrounded by people watching it perform as if it were some endangered creature. I pressed my face against the glass wishing desperately that I could be outside in the sun with the bird than stuck in here. I felt like it had heard my thoughts because the next minute the bird stopped and inquisitively walked closer towards the window and its bead like eyes stared through the glass at me. Then all of a sudden its delicate wings transformed into much larger ones like an aeroplane and it took off. I waved at it through the window feeling guilty for having disturbed it . ‘I’m sorry,‘ I whispered quietly. I glanced back into the room where I stood . The ceiling towered above me and the pink flowery patterns of the walls matched my dress. I tugged on my pink bow that was in my hair almost wishing that if I did this the bird would come back.
“Sweet heart, why don’t you come sit back down,” my mother called. I walked from the window and sat down, adjusting my bow so that it fell into my hands. I dangled it between two of my fingers watching it as it fell helplessly to the ground. I did this several times until I got bored hoping that one time it would not want to fall to the ground but instead fly around the room. I picked up the piece of ribbon and looked up to see my sister making faces at me from the other side of the room. My mummy told me once that you should not make faces because when the wind changes you stay like that forever. I giggled as I pictured my sister looking like that when she was 50.
-30 years later-
“Mummy, I can see it , I can see it.”
“I saw it first though”
“No you didn’t”
“Yes I did.”
“ Well I said I’d seen it first.”
I looked up from the map that was spread across the seat on the other side of the car. I noticed the top of the house appearing over the trees ahead.
“ Look it doesn’t really matter who saw it first you can both see it now,” I said, hoping that this would stop them arguing. I turned the corner of the road and saw an opening to a drive ahead of me. I decided this was probably the right one and swerved the car down it. Ahead, stood the most beautiful house I had ever seen. It had been so long since I had come here with my parents, when I was little that I had forgotten how beautiful and huge it was. I stopped the car outside the front of the house. I looked closer at the house and realised that it looked much older and messier then I remembered with streams of ivy woven round the windows.
I knocked on the door hoping someone would answer. I picked up my youngest who looked like she was about to fall asleep and rested her in my arms.
“ Maybe no one lives here anymore,” I said.
My other daughter looked up at me with a magical smile. “Someone will come”, she said.
We waited a little bit longer but no one came. As I walked away from the door I heard a car driving up in the distance. A young women about the same age as me stepped out.
“Excuse me,” I said. “I was wondering if I could look round your garden with my children. I used to come here when I was younger with my family and me and my sister would play in the garden outside.”
“ Oh yes, of course but it might be a little untidy because I have only arrived recently and the last person did not keep it in very good condition.”
We walked round the back of the house and onto the lawn. Memories suddenly rushed into my mind. I remembered the pond that was near the bottom of the lawn and the time that me and my sister had been looking for frogs and one ended up on the back of my dress. I had hated frogs and the next few times we came I had been terrified to go near the pond. I also remembered the huge apple tree opposite us which we would climb and eat all the apples. I pointed out these places to my children and they rushed round them with excitement. I suddenly remembered the day when we had come here last and I saw the bird sitting on the lawn. I asked the lady if any of the last residents had kept any birds. She said she didn’t know. She asked if I would like a cup of tea and so she went back inside the house.
“ What did the bird look like,” my older daughter asked.
“ I can’t remember but it was really beautiful, but I don’t think it will ever come back.”
“What do you mean” she asked looking at me strangely. “ It’s right in front of us”
I wrote a short story for school. Please read and tell me what you think!!!!?
Brilliant. A very pleasant well-told story.
2 things:
1 "Then all of a sudden its delicate wings transformed into much larger ones like an aeroplane and it took off". Aeroplanes don't have wings that transform in to larger ones. Though I like the sense of size that this simile produces.
2 How does her daughter know that the bird before them is the same as the one 30 years previously? The main character has mentioned nothing specific about its appearance that would make it so instantly recognisable. If you do describe something remarkable about it it would deal with this problem and give the bird a sense of character that would make it stand out from all the other potential birds in the world.
I hope this is useful to you. It is a very good story. You deserve full marks.
Reply:It's beautiful, I like the vocab u used in describing.
But there's something with the 'bird ' plot..I don't know what exactly..I think you got a bit carried away out of your main point
Reply:alot of explination for a bird might be trying a little too hard
Reply:I love it!! The visuals were great and I liked the story. Also the end was funny. It vaguely reminded me of Harry Potter.
I'd give it a 9/10
I think it reminded me of HP because I though of professor Mcgonagal when she was watching the Dursleys as a cat.
Reply:I liked it. It had great visuals, and almost a mysterious tone to it. You could hear the background music as you got lost in the story. Besides a few grammatical errors, I think it is great! I wish there were a whole novel to go with it. LOL!
I gazed out of the window, my eyes immediately transfixed on the beautiful bird outside. It stood in the centre of the lawn, its feathers glistening with the light from the sun. Its wings shone with an array of colours and at the tip of each one there was a thin gold tint. I stared vividly as it ruffled its head into one of its wings, sometimes completely vanishing out of view and then reappearing with chunks of feathers in its beak. It almost seemed like it was dancing and I tried to picture it surrounded by people watching it perform as if it were some endangered creature. I pressed my face against the glass wishing desperately that I could be outside in the sun with the bird than stuck in here. I felt like it had heard my thoughts because the next minute the bird stopped and inquisitively walked closer towards the window and its bead like eyes stared through the glass at me. Then all of a sudden its delicate wings transformed into much larger ones like an aeroplane and it took off. I waved at it through the window feeling guilty for having disturbed it . ‘I’m sorry,‘ I whispered quietly. I glanced back into the room where I stood . The ceiling towered above me and the pink flowery patterns of the walls matched my dress. I tugged on my pink bow that was in my hair almost wishing that if I did this the bird would come back.
“Sweet heart, why don’t you come sit back down,” my mother called. I walked from the window and sat down, adjusting my bow so that it fell into my hands. I dangled it between two of my fingers watching it as it fell helplessly to the ground. I did this several times until I got bored hoping that one time it would not want to fall to the ground but instead fly around the room. I picked up the piece of ribbon and looked up to see my sister making faces at me from the other side of the room. My mummy told me once that you should not make faces because when the wind changes you stay like that forever. I giggled as I pictured my sister looking like that when she was 50.
-30 years later-
“Mummy, I can see it , I can see it.”
“I saw it first though”
“No you didn’t”
“Yes I did.”
“ Well I said I’d seen it first.”
I looked up from the map that was spread across the seat on the other side of the car. I noticed the top of the house appearing over the trees ahead.
“ Look it doesn’t really matter who saw it first you can both see it now,” I said, hoping that this would stop them arguing. I turned the corner of the road and saw an opening to a drive ahead of me. I decided this was probably the right one and swerved the car down it. Ahead, stood the most beautiful house I had ever seen. It had been so long since I had come here with my parents, when I was little that I had forgotten how beautiful and huge it was. I stopped the car outside the front of the house. I looked closer at the house and realised that it looked much older and messier then I remembered with streams of ivy woven round the windows.
I knocked on the door hoping someone would answer. I picked up my youngest who looked like she was about to fall asleep and rested her in my arms.
“ Maybe no one lives here anymore,” I said.
My other daughter looked up at me with a magical smile. “Someone will come”, she said.
We waited a little bit longer but no one came. As I walked away from the door I heard a car driving up in the distance. A young women about the same age as me stepped out.
“Excuse me,” I said. “I was wondering if I could look round your garden with my children. I used to come here when I was younger with my family and me and my sister would play in the garden outside.”
“ Oh yes, of course but it might be a little untidy because I have only arrived recently and the last person did not keep it in very good condition.”
We walked round the back of the house and onto the lawn. Memories suddenly rushed into my mind. I remembered the pond that was near the bottom of the lawn and the time that me and my sister had been looking for frogs and one ended up on the back of my dress. I had hated frogs and the next few times we came I had been terrified to go near the pond. I also remembered the huge apple tree opposite us which we would climb and eat all the apples. I pointed out these places to my children and they rushed round them with excitement. I suddenly remembered the day when we had come here last and I saw the bird sitting on the lawn. I asked the lady if any of the last residents had kept any birds. She said she didn’t know. She asked if I would like a cup of tea and so she went back inside the house.
“ What did the bird look like,” my older daughter asked.
“ I can’t remember but it was really beautiful, but I don’t think it will ever come back.”
“What do you mean” she asked looking at me strangely. “ It’s right in front of us”
I wrote a short story for school. Please read and tell me what you think!!!!?
Brilliant. A very pleasant well-told story.
2 things:
1 "Then all of a sudden its delicate wings transformed into much larger ones like an aeroplane and it took off". Aeroplanes don't have wings that transform in to larger ones. Though I like the sense of size that this simile produces.
2 How does her daughter know that the bird before them is the same as the one 30 years previously? The main character has mentioned nothing specific about its appearance that would make it so instantly recognisable. If you do describe something remarkable about it it would deal with this problem and give the bird a sense of character that would make it stand out from all the other potential birds in the world.
I hope this is useful to you. It is a very good story. You deserve full marks.
Reply:It's beautiful, I like the vocab u used in describing.
But there's something with the 'bird ' plot..I don't know what exactly..I think you got a bit carried away out of your main point
Reply:alot of explination for a bird might be trying a little too hard
Reply:I love it!! The visuals were great and I liked the story. Also the end was funny. It vaguely reminded me of Harry Potter.
I'd give it a 9/10
I think it reminded me of HP because I though of professor Mcgonagal when she was watching the Dursleys as a cat.
Reply:I liked it. It had great visuals, and almost a mysterious tone to it. You could hear the background music as you got lost in the story. Besides a few grammatical errors, I think it is great! I wish there were a whole novel to go with it. LOL!
I have 2 itchy callous like bumps on one finger?
they have been there for about 3- 4months and getting itchier as time goes on. They are hard and discoloured. The skin around them is red with the centre being yellowish. I don't think they are warts and I don't think callous' are itchy. They are on my middle finger, on my left hand and would not be there due to gardening, using a tool, etc. any ideas? thanks
I have 2 itchy callous like bumps on one finger?
Seemingly strange question, but do you garden without gloves? If you do, there's a chance that you're having an allergic reaction to one of the plants you handle. Even on your left hand it could be due to that when your hands come in contact with each other. But either way, since it's been so long and they seem to be getting worse, you should definitely make an appointment with your doctor so they can take a look at it. It's probably nothing major, but it's best to let them take a look. If something weird like that happens again, you may want to see a doc a little sooner, like after a few weeks.
Reply:Go to a dermatologist to make sure it is not cancer or something. I was going to say warts before I read the rest of your question...it still might be?
Reply:go to the doctor it could be a sign of something serious.
Reply:Which finger? Could be from using your fingers. Could be funky warts. Go to the dermatologist.
Reply:have the Dr check them =could be an infection and they can shave them off for you and give you an antibiotic to help heal the finger
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I have 2 itchy callous like bumps on one finger?
Seemingly strange question, but do you garden without gloves? If you do, there's a chance that you're having an allergic reaction to one of the plants you handle. Even on your left hand it could be due to that when your hands come in contact with each other. But either way, since it's been so long and they seem to be getting worse, you should definitely make an appointment with your doctor so they can take a look at it. It's probably nothing major, but it's best to let them take a look. If something weird like that happens again, you may want to see a doc a little sooner, like after a few weeks.
Reply:Go to a dermatologist to make sure it is not cancer or something. I was going to say warts before I read the rest of your question...it still might be?
Reply:go to the doctor it could be a sign of something serious.
Reply:Which finger? Could be from using your fingers. Could be funky warts. Go to the dermatologist.
Reply:have the Dr check them =could be an infection and they can shave them off for you and give you an antibiotic to help heal the finger
7N/8D In Kuala lumpur Help choose from attractions.?
Hi
I will be in Kuala Lumpur(Hotel Quality-Jalan Raja Laut) 19-26'th Sept.I have registered a tour To visit (in 4 days):(Lake garden-Petrownas towin towers-KL. Tower-Istana Palace-National mosque-National Museum
-Genting high land-Putrajaya-batu cave)
For remain 3 days I want to see these Places:
Shopping:
(Berjaya Times square-Low yat plaza-Sungei Wang Plaza-Lot 10 plaza-Midvalley megamall-Central market-Little India-Craft complex-Saturday night market(pasar malam)-Sogo -1Utama(onw utama)
Attractions:
MTC(Malaysia tourist info. Centre-China town-Islamic art museusm -National zoo.-Agricultural park( Shah alam)-FRIM(kepong)-Templar park-Masjid jamek
I know these are many for 3 days, but because I don't know exact distance between them, I can't Select some Places and ignore others. (Is it possible to see all ?)
Could any one please help me and define near places and categorized them for visit some places with each other? (If possible with specify Railway station)
Yours sincere
7N/8D In Kuala lumpur Help choose from attractions.?
Hi, a lot of places you want to visit. Since you will be in Jalan Raja Laut, some of the place can be reached either by walking or monorail.
First of all, you must decide which places you really want to see. You can also rgoup this shopping center together since they are just walking distance from each other: Berjaya Time Square, Low Yat Plaza, Sungai Wang Plaza and Lot 10.
Then Central Market, and Petaling Street can be grouped together. From Petaling Street, you can walk to Masjik Jamek Station wherein it is a walking distance to Little India.
Zoo Negara is a bit far from Jalan Raja Laut but not that far. You can take the Putra LRT and go down to Wangsa Maju Station, from there you can take the taxi, it won't be that far.
FRIM and Templar Park is a bit farther. It is better you go with someone.
Ask help from your hotel when you arrive. Most Malaysians are helpful so they will try to find out for you how to get to most places.
There's not much thing in Sogo but near Quality Hotel so go ahead and visit it. Go to the site below and find out more where to go in KL. Enjoy your stay.
Reply:You won't be able to cover all of this in your remaing 3 days. Depending on what you want to shop for, you can try Low Yat for technology/cameras etc. and Little India for some bargins.
I wouldn't worry about visiting the National Zoo as it is boring and depressing.
Reply:i can't answer all bcos i don't live in KL.
Berjaya Times Square,Low Yat,Sungei wang,Lot 10 are near to each other-take Monorail LRT and it has many stops to these places,eg: Station Imbi directly in front Times Square and very,very near to Sungei Wang and Low Yat.
Midvalley-take KTM Komuter until MidValley station.
Sogo-take Star LRT until Bandaraya Station. I don't know what is Little India,but near Sogo there is a road called Jalan Tunku Abdul Rahman where many,many shops sell cloth,fabric,silk (much like india i guess?)
One Utama-i rarely went there bcos there's no LRT connection. But u can still take a cab or bus there.
have fun in KL.U'll be surprised how big the shopping mall is (especially MidValley,Times Square)
I will be in Kuala Lumpur(Hotel Quality-Jalan Raja Laut) 19-26'th Sept.I have registered a tour To visit (in 4 days):(Lake garden-Petrownas towin towers-KL. Tower-Istana Palace-National mosque-National Museum
-Genting high land-Putrajaya-batu cave)
For remain 3 days I want to see these Places:
Shopping:
(Berjaya Times square-Low yat plaza-Sungei Wang Plaza-Lot 10 plaza-Midvalley megamall-Central market-Little India-Craft complex-Saturday night market(pasar malam)-Sogo -1Utama(onw utama)
Attractions:
MTC(Malaysia tourist info. Centre-China town-Islamic art museusm -National zoo.-Agricultural park( Shah alam)-FRIM(kepong)-Templar park-Masjid jamek
I know these are many for 3 days, but because I don't know exact distance between them, I can't Select some Places and ignore others. (Is it possible to see all ?)
Could any one please help me and define near places and categorized them for visit some places with each other? (If possible with specify Railway station)
Yours sincere
7N/8D In Kuala lumpur Help choose from attractions.?
Hi, a lot of places you want to visit. Since you will be in Jalan Raja Laut, some of the place can be reached either by walking or monorail.
First of all, you must decide which places you really want to see. You can also rgoup this shopping center together since they are just walking distance from each other: Berjaya Time Square, Low Yat Plaza, Sungai Wang Plaza and Lot 10.
Then Central Market, and Petaling Street can be grouped together. From Petaling Street, you can walk to Masjik Jamek Station wherein it is a walking distance to Little India.
Zoo Negara is a bit far from Jalan Raja Laut but not that far. You can take the Putra LRT and go down to Wangsa Maju Station, from there you can take the taxi, it won't be that far.
FRIM and Templar Park is a bit farther. It is better you go with someone.
Ask help from your hotel when you arrive. Most Malaysians are helpful so they will try to find out for you how to get to most places.
There's not much thing in Sogo but near Quality Hotel so go ahead and visit it. Go to the site below and find out more where to go in KL. Enjoy your stay.
Reply:You won't be able to cover all of this in your remaing 3 days. Depending on what you want to shop for, you can try Low Yat for technology/cameras etc. and Little India for some bargins.
I wouldn't worry about visiting the National Zoo as it is boring and depressing.
Reply:i can't answer all bcos i don't live in KL.
Berjaya Times Square,Low Yat,Sungei wang,Lot 10 are near to each other-take Monorail LRT and it has many stops to these places,eg: Station Imbi directly in front Times Square and very,very near to Sungei Wang and Low Yat.
Midvalley-take KTM Komuter until MidValley station.
Sogo-take Star LRT until Bandaraya Station. I don't know what is Little India,but near Sogo there is a road called Jalan Tunku Abdul Rahman where many,many shops sell cloth,fabric,silk (much like india i guess?)
One Utama-i rarely went there bcos there's no LRT connection. But u can still take a cab or bus there.
have fun in KL.U'll be surprised how big the shopping mall is (especially MidValley,Times Square)
He needs to be told straight...so i told him?
My partner is annoyed with me because yesterday his son who's 34 came here like really early in the morning and sat here all day whining, flicking through the channels on the TV, smoking my ciggies, helping himself to my food, feet on my table and whines coz he's got no job and no money, my partner has his own place 10 yards across the garden, but is here most of the time, i am tired of his son coming here whinging and moaning all the time, he should be looking for a job, i have kept my mouth shut for way too long, so yesterday i snapped and i told him that this is not a drop in centre for the stupid, i told him to leave my ciggies alone, and told him to stay out of my fridge, he's using my home as a bloody doss house, so when i had a go at him yesterday my partner got the hump, for crying out loud, HE' S 34 and should have a job instead of sponging off us all the time, am i right for being p*ssed off, coz it seems that right now i am the bad person, i wont be taken for a mug
He needs to be told straight...so i told him?
you most def should not feel like it is your fault, 99% of people who were in your situation would more than likely do the same thing, you should not have to put up with that and its your home he's in your entitled to your own opinion in your own home. if he is 34 he should be looking for a job not sitting down whining that he has'nt got 1, he will never get 1 like that, he's more than likely attention seeking, if i were you i wouldnt allow him to come in untill he found himself a job, but thats not what some poeple would tell you, as for your partner he should try and see it from your point of veiw explain to him would he like it if someone was doing it to him then he should come around to the ides that your right for what you have said, hope this helps. good luck xx
Reply:I think you did the right thing. Get rid of him and reconsider your relationship with his father, too. It all sounds very unsatisfactory.
Reply:You do have have a right to be p*ssed off but this is your partners child, no matter how old he is, he will always be your partners child and you attacked his child therefore you attacked him. I know we all have a breaking point but there are ways of saying things, especially to your partners child. He obviously feels comfortable at your house so that's why hes there most of the time. I can see your partners side too because if anyone has a go at my kids i see red.' Go talk to your partner explain it to him in a calm way, although you might have to apologise before he will listen. Good luck
Reply:it was rather normal that you snapped at him cause well you are angry and its hard to control anger, but your husband also has the right to feel hurt for what you said to his son, i mean its wrong that he is a free loader but it is also wrong that you shout at him and treat him as if he was not human at all, my point is there is a better way to talk to him and tell him of the things that you see are wrong and not call someone stupid cause that would not make him realize his mistakes, it could just get him infuriated but not really seeing the point, because you are older and more mature cause obviously he is not you can talk to each other when you are no longer mad, cause believe me shouting would get you nowhere but chaos, you can talk to him in a peaceful manner, for all you know that person is suffering from depression and rather feels left alone and that somehow he need someone to be a mother figure to him, be open minded, its normal for you to get mad, but it would give you nothing more if you just stop at it.
Reply:Don't you feel sorry at all babe, if there were more people like you there wouldn't be so many bums, dossers and low life's on the streets, bravo. Someone had to tell him, rather someone close than a stranger, by 34 he should already be where he should be, not as you so rightly say sponging off you.
Reply:What a happy family!:)))))....Seriously, I don't see a bright future together ahead for you and your partner...
Reply:Some people just do take advantage,No,you were right full marks if he had offered to replace then sure perhaps but,Nothing you did right.
Reply:you did the right thing...its your house your the one who has earnt the privilidge of living there the other guy has nop right to do that. your partner shouldnt be annoyed at you instead he needs to recognise its your rights to kick someone outta your house. i understand why you'd be annoyed.
Reply:Yes it seems you are correct. A 34 year old should first respect someone else's house whether it's his fathers partner or not. Second he needs a job, third every time he picks up one of your ciggarettes then tell him no as if he were a dog the same when he is in your fridge or his feet are on the table or whatever. Consistancy is the key. He is acting like a child so treat him like one. Take your feet off the table please, these are my cigarrettes please buy your own. There's a McDonald's down the street, your dads house is across the street etc..... keep it up. You do not have to get all stressed and yell just keep telling him no.
Reply:i think you are absolutely spot on, if your question had been one of these, my partners son does this what should i do about it, i would have said to do exactly what you said. has this guy got no pride? at that age if he is 34 what the ell is going on, and how has your partner let this go on, what principles did he bring his son up with? good luck, i hope he gets his lazy *** off your sofa and onto a desk.
Reply:you had the right to tell him. you should have told him a lot sooner.you worked for what you have so why let a bumb take it.some people just wont face up to what their child has done with their life. this son choose to do nothing.your partner is annoyed now but he will get over it if not.you dont want to put up with baby boy everyday.you might have to tell your partner you will split if things dont change.34 needs to go-go-go-.let him buy his own cig, food,and get his darn feet off your coffee table.he can get a job and have money if dad gives him a little push and quit baby him. good luck.
Reply:Sounds like an issue between your partner and his son. Talk to your partner about it, quietly and calmly. Try to work out a way to encourage the son to actually do something productive with his life. I don't think your partner has been able to do that on his own, but with your support and some time, maybe you both can help the son to improve himself.
You are right to be Peed off tho. You are being taken advantage of, and I'm pretty sure you are one who can say enough is enough when the time comes (if it comes). But give the boy the benefit of the doubt, and give him a chance to prove himself. It might work out even better that you imagined
Reply:Too bloody right! You tell him, you're in a relationship with his father not him! If he wants to doss out somewhere instead of getting a job then he's a lazy good for nothing so and so. I'm surprised you kept it in this long. Don't be taken for a fool, you're not a mug, you're an independant woman who doesn't need some jerk of a man hanging around your place instead of getting of his backside and moving!!!!
People like that make me soo angry! You stand up for your house, your space and your relationship! Just tell your partner the way it is calmly and immediately!
Reply:why did you never start with the soft force?
there is more here than you are telling us
Reply:Yes I would agree with u, u can only keep quiet for so long. Good 4 u!!
Reply:F*** ur partner! Kick his son's *** and throw him out of ur house. 34 male no job what a shameless son of a *****. You made the right decision
Reply:you have every right to be mad and say something.... your partners son needs to grow up!!
your partner should understand how you feel and stick by your side.
Reply:I applaud you.Sometimes you need to let folks know if they are getting to you.This lad sounds like he needed a kick in the pants to wake him up.My husband, (after years of trying to get his mother to phone before calling to visit and lots of other stuff) finally snapped.Sure, there has been tears and upset, but we need to be serious sometimes.If you let yourself become a doormat, then that's what people will use you as.You did the right thing in my opinion, well done.
Reply:oh bloody hell too much to read at this time
hic !
roller blades
He needs to be told straight...so i told him?
you most def should not feel like it is your fault, 99% of people who were in your situation would more than likely do the same thing, you should not have to put up with that and its your home he's in your entitled to your own opinion in your own home. if he is 34 he should be looking for a job not sitting down whining that he has'nt got 1, he will never get 1 like that, he's more than likely attention seeking, if i were you i wouldnt allow him to come in untill he found himself a job, but thats not what some poeple would tell you, as for your partner he should try and see it from your point of veiw explain to him would he like it if someone was doing it to him then he should come around to the ides that your right for what you have said, hope this helps. good luck xx
Reply:I think you did the right thing. Get rid of him and reconsider your relationship with his father, too. It all sounds very unsatisfactory.
Reply:You do have have a right to be p*ssed off but this is your partners child, no matter how old he is, he will always be your partners child and you attacked his child therefore you attacked him. I know we all have a breaking point but there are ways of saying things, especially to your partners child. He obviously feels comfortable at your house so that's why hes there most of the time. I can see your partners side too because if anyone has a go at my kids i see red.' Go talk to your partner explain it to him in a calm way, although you might have to apologise before he will listen. Good luck
Reply:it was rather normal that you snapped at him cause well you are angry and its hard to control anger, but your husband also has the right to feel hurt for what you said to his son, i mean its wrong that he is a free loader but it is also wrong that you shout at him and treat him as if he was not human at all, my point is there is a better way to talk to him and tell him of the things that you see are wrong and not call someone stupid cause that would not make him realize his mistakes, it could just get him infuriated but not really seeing the point, because you are older and more mature cause obviously he is not you can talk to each other when you are no longer mad, cause believe me shouting would get you nowhere but chaos, you can talk to him in a peaceful manner, for all you know that person is suffering from depression and rather feels left alone and that somehow he need someone to be a mother figure to him, be open minded, its normal for you to get mad, but it would give you nothing more if you just stop at it.
Reply:Don't you feel sorry at all babe, if there were more people like you there wouldn't be so many bums, dossers and low life's on the streets, bravo. Someone had to tell him, rather someone close than a stranger, by 34 he should already be where he should be, not as you so rightly say sponging off you.
Reply:What a happy family!:)))))....Seriously, I don't see a bright future together ahead for you and your partner...
Reply:Some people just do take advantage,No,you were right full marks if he had offered to replace then sure perhaps but,Nothing you did right.
Reply:you did the right thing...its your house your the one who has earnt the privilidge of living there the other guy has nop right to do that. your partner shouldnt be annoyed at you instead he needs to recognise its your rights to kick someone outta your house. i understand why you'd be annoyed.
Reply:Yes it seems you are correct. A 34 year old should first respect someone else's house whether it's his fathers partner or not. Second he needs a job, third every time he picks up one of your ciggarettes then tell him no as if he were a dog the same when he is in your fridge or his feet are on the table or whatever. Consistancy is the key. He is acting like a child so treat him like one. Take your feet off the table please, these are my cigarrettes please buy your own. There's a McDonald's down the street, your dads house is across the street etc..... keep it up. You do not have to get all stressed and yell just keep telling him no.
Reply:i think you are absolutely spot on, if your question had been one of these, my partners son does this what should i do about it, i would have said to do exactly what you said. has this guy got no pride? at that age if he is 34 what the ell is going on, and how has your partner let this go on, what principles did he bring his son up with? good luck, i hope he gets his lazy *** off your sofa and onto a desk.
Reply:you had the right to tell him. you should have told him a lot sooner.you worked for what you have so why let a bumb take it.some people just wont face up to what their child has done with their life. this son choose to do nothing.your partner is annoyed now but he will get over it if not.you dont want to put up with baby boy everyday.you might have to tell your partner you will split if things dont change.34 needs to go-go-go-.let him buy his own cig, food,and get his darn feet off your coffee table.he can get a job and have money if dad gives him a little push and quit baby him. good luck.
Reply:Sounds like an issue between your partner and his son. Talk to your partner about it, quietly and calmly. Try to work out a way to encourage the son to actually do something productive with his life. I don't think your partner has been able to do that on his own, but with your support and some time, maybe you both can help the son to improve himself.
You are right to be Peed off tho. You are being taken advantage of, and I'm pretty sure you are one who can say enough is enough when the time comes (if it comes). But give the boy the benefit of the doubt, and give him a chance to prove himself. It might work out even better that you imagined
Reply:Too bloody right! You tell him, you're in a relationship with his father not him! If he wants to doss out somewhere instead of getting a job then he's a lazy good for nothing so and so. I'm surprised you kept it in this long. Don't be taken for a fool, you're not a mug, you're an independant woman who doesn't need some jerk of a man hanging around your place instead of getting of his backside and moving!!!!
People like that make me soo angry! You stand up for your house, your space and your relationship! Just tell your partner the way it is calmly and immediately!
Reply:why did you never start with the soft force?
there is more here than you are telling us
Reply:Yes I would agree with u, u can only keep quiet for so long. Good 4 u!!
Reply:F*** ur partner! Kick his son's *** and throw him out of ur house. 34 male no job what a shameless son of a *****. You made the right decision
Reply:you have every right to be mad and say something.... your partners son needs to grow up!!
your partner should understand how you feel and stick by your side.
Reply:I applaud you.Sometimes you need to let folks know if they are getting to you.This lad sounds like he needed a kick in the pants to wake him up.My husband, (after years of trying to get his mother to phone before calling to visit and lots of other stuff) finally snapped.Sure, there has been tears and upset, but we need to be serious sometimes.If you let yourself become a doormat, then that's what people will use you as.You did the right thing in my opinion, well done.
Reply:oh bloody hell too much to read at this time
hic !
roller blades
I still want to set up orphanage in Peru. ill email you more info if you want 4 a read?
Vision
I was in Peru last summer on a mission team to the beautiful modern city of Arequipa where many tourist visit. Walking round the county side I thought that it would be great to buy lots of fields and build a hotel! But this hotel would be solely to aid the large orphanage next door! So the orphanage would be self financing. There are many orphanages but unfortunately many more kids that need a home and support. I know south Peru well and understand that in many places there are many abandoned kids and babies. I would build a purpose centre in Arequipa for as many as I can.
I have many ideas and designs already of both complexes. The hotel would have a huge garden and would display many beautiful parts of Peru in the one garden. Like having a tropical feel to it with a river, small lake to swim in and many animals and birds. This garden would be the main selling point of the hotel, along with letting every one know that the money spent will go to the orphanage and cause
I still want to set up orphanage in Peru. ill email you more info if you want 4 a read?
First of all, can you legally buy property in Peru, do you have a DNI, CE , or permission to sign a contract visa? You'll need one of those.
Have you talked to the orphanage in Arequipa?
I recommend posting info on www.volunteerabroad.com, you can place an advert there for free.
Also, who is going to care for the kids and the orphaange? There's a lot of red tape in Peru. Especially if you-re a foreigner.
AS for money, try contacting churches, also try posting info on www.expatperu.com and www.livinginperu.com
Also about cost, I don't know, but we bought a 80m2 flat in Lima and it was close to 30K.
Reply:This is a very nice altruistic idea but I'm not sure private orphanages are allowed here in Peru.
I suggest you check everything first with the INABIF which is the national organism that runs orphanages. Here is its info:
PROGRAMA INTEGRAL NACIONAL PARA EL BIENESTAR FAMILIAR - INABIF
Av. San Martín 685 Pueblo Libre, Lima- Perú
Teléfonos: (511) 462-0703, 462-0172, 463-0737
Web: http://www.inabif.gob.pe
Good luck and thank you for your thoghtfull idea!
I was in Peru last summer on a mission team to the beautiful modern city of Arequipa where many tourist visit. Walking round the county side I thought that it would be great to buy lots of fields and build a hotel! But this hotel would be solely to aid the large orphanage next door! So the orphanage would be self financing. There are many orphanages but unfortunately many more kids that need a home and support. I know south Peru well and understand that in many places there are many abandoned kids and babies. I would build a purpose centre in Arequipa for as many as I can.
I have many ideas and designs already of both complexes. The hotel would have a huge garden and would display many beautiful parts of Peru in the one garden. Like having a tropical feel to it with a river, small lake to swim in and many animals and birds. This garden would be the main selling point of the hotel, along with letting every one know that the money spent will go to the orphanage and cause
I still want to set up orphanage in Peru. ill email you more info if you want 4 a read?
First of all, can you legally buy property in Peru, do you have a DNI, CE , or permission to sign a contract visa? You'll need one of those.
Have you talked to the orphanage in Arequipa?
I recommend posting info on www.volunteerabroad.com, you can place an advert there for free.
Also, who is going to care for the kids and the orphaange? There's a lot of red tape in Peru. Especially if you-re a foreigner.
AS for money, try contacting churches, also try posting info on www.expatperu.com and www.livinginperu.com
Also about cost, I don't know, but we bought a 80m2 flat in Lima and it was close to 30K.
Reply:This is a very nice altruistic idea but I'm not sure private orphanages are allowed here in Peru.
I suggest you check everything first with the INABIF which is the national organism that runs orphanages. Here is its info:
PROGRAMA INTEGRAL NACIONAL PARA EL BIENESTAR FAMILIAR - INABIF
Av. San Martín 685 Pueblo Libre, Lima- Perú
Teléfonos: (511) 462-0703, 462-0172, 463-0737
Web: http://www.inabif.gob.pe
Good luck and thank you for your thoghtfull idea!
Whats The Real Story Of Mary From the Holy Quran?
1 Kaf. Ha. Ya. `Ain. Sad.
This is the only Sura which begins with these five Abbreviated Letters, K.,H.,Y.,A.,S. For Abbreviated Letters generally.
2 (This is) a recital of the Mercy of thy Lord to His Servant Zakariya.
The Mercy of Allah to Zakriya was shown in many ways: (1) in the acceptance of his prayer; (2) in bestowing a son like Yahya; and (3) in the love between father and son, in addition to the work which Yahya did as Allah's Messenger for the world.
3 Behold! he cried to his Lord in secret .
In secret: because he feared that his own family and relatives were going wrong, and he wanted to keep the lamp of Allah burning bright. He could not very well mention the fear about his colleagues (who were his relations)
4 Praying: "O my Lord! infirm indeed are my bones and the hair of my head doth glisten with grey: but never am I unblest O my Lord in my prayer to Thee!
This preface shows the fervent faith of Zakariya. Zakariya was a prophet of the Most High Allah. His office was in the Temple, and his relatives were his colleagues. But he found in them no true spirit of the service of Allah and man. He was filled with anxiety as to who would uphold the godly ideas he had in mind, which were strange to his worldly colleagues.
5 "Now I fear (what) my relatives (and colleagues) (will do) after me: but my wife is barren: so give me an heir as from Thyself
His was not merely a desire for a son. If it had been, he would have prayed much earlier in his life, when he was a young man. He was too full of true piety to put merely selfish things into his prayers. But here was a public need, in the service of the Lord.
6 "(One that) will (truly) represent me and represent the posterity of Jacob; and make him O my Lord! one with whom Thou art well-pleased!"
It is true that an heir inherits property, but his higher duty is to represent in everything the personality of him from whom he inherits. It is doubtful whether Zakariya had any worldly property. But he had character and virtue, as a man of God, and this he wanted to transmit to his heir as his most precious possession. It was almost the most precious possession of the posterity of Jacob. The people around him had fallen away from Allah's Message. Could his heir, like him, try and renew it?
7 (His prayer was answered): "O Zakariya! We give thee good news of a son: his name shall be Yahya: on none by that name have We conferred distinction before."
This was John the Baptist, the forerunner of Jesus. In accordance with his father's prayer he, and Jesus for whom he prepared the way, renewed the Message of Allah, which had been corrupted and lost among the Israelites. The Arabic form Yahya suggests "Life". The Hebrew form is Johanan, which means "Jehovah has been Gracious".
8 He said: "O my Lord! how shall I have a son when my wife is barren and I have grown quite decrepit from old age?"
Who is the "He" in this clause? As I have construed it, following the majority of Commentators, it means the angel who brought the message from Allah. But some Commentators construe it to refer to Zakariya. In that case the meaning will be: Zakariya after a little reflection said (in his wonder) "So!", i.e., "Can it really be so? Can I really have a son in my old age?"
9 He said: "So (it will be): thy Lord saith `That is easy for Me: I did indeed create thee before when thou hadst been nothing!' "
Every man was nothing just before he was created, i.e., his personality was called into being by Allah. Even if there are material processes in forming the body, in accordance with the laws of nature, the real creative force is the power of Allah. But here there is a subtler meaning. John was the harbinger of Jesus, preparing the way for him; and this sentence also prepares us for the more wonderful birth of Jesus himself, see verse 21 below. Everything is possible with Allah.
10 (Zakariya) said "O my Lord! give me a Sign." "Thy Sign" was the answer "shall be that thou shalt speak to no man for three nights although thou art not dumb." 2464 2465
The "Sign", was in order to convince Zakariya that the Lord's promise was true.
11 So Zakariya came out to his people from his chamber: he told them by
signs to celebrate Allah's praises in the morning and in the evening.
12 (To his son came the command): "O Yahya! take hold of the Book with might": and We gave him wisdom even as a youth.
Time passes. The son is born. In this section of the Sura the centre of interest is Yahya, and the instruction is now given to him. 'Keep fast hold of Allah's revelation with all your might': for an unbelieving world had either corrupted or neglected it, and Yahya (John the Baptist) was to prepare the way for, Jesus, who was coming to renew and re-interpret it.
Hukm, translated Wisdom, implies something more than Wisdom; it is the Wisdom or Judgment that is entitied to judge and command, as in the matter of denouncing sin.
13 And pity (for all creatures) as from Us and purity: he was devout
John the Baptist did not live long. He was imprisoned by Herod, the tetrarch (provincial ruler under the Roman Empire), whom he had reproved for his sins, and eventually beheaded at the instigation of the woman with whom Herod was infatuated. But even in his young life, he was granted (1) wisdom by Allah, for he boldly denounced sin; (2) gentle pity and love for all Allah's creatures, for he moved among the humble and lowly, and despised "soft raiment"; and (3) purity of life, for he renounced the world and lived in the wilderness. All his work he did in his youth. These things showed themselves in his conduct, for he was devout, showing love to Allah and to Allah's creatures, and more particularly to his parents (for we are considering that aspect of his life): this was also shown by the fact that he never used violence, from an attitude of arrogance, nor entertained a spirit of rebellion against divine Law.
14 And kind to his parents and he was not overbearing or rebellious.
15 So Peace on him the day he was born the day that he dies and the day that he will be raised up to life (again)!
This is spoken as in the life-time of Yahya. Peace and Allah's Blessings, were on him when he was born; they continue when he is about to die an unjust death at the hands of a tyrant; and they will be specially manifest at the Day of Judgment.
16 Relate in the Book (the story of) Mary when she withdrew from her family to a place in the East.
the story of Mary. Here the whole theme is different: it is the personal side of the experiences of the worshippers of Allah in relation to their families or environment.
To a private eastern chamber, perhaps in the Temple. She went into privacy, from her people and from people in general, for prayer and devotion. It was in this state of purity that the angel appeared to her in the shape of a man. She thought it was a man. She was frightened, and she adjured him not to invade her privacy.
17 She placed a screen (to screen herself) from them: then We sent to her Our angel and he appeared before her as a man in all respects.
18 She said: "I seek refuge from thee to (Allah) Most Gracious: (come not near) if thou dost fear Allah."
19 He said: "Nay I am only a messenger from thy Lord (to announce) to thee the gift of a holy son."
Allah had destined her to be the mother of the Prophet Jesus Christ, and now had come the time when this should be announced to her.
20 She said: "How shall I have a son seeing that no man has touched me and I am not unchaste?"
21 He said: "So (it will be): thy Lord saith `That is easy for Me: and (We wish) to appoint him as a Sign unto men and a Mercy from Us': it is a matter (so) decreed."
The mission of Jesus is announced in two ways (1) he was to be a Sign to men; his wonderful birth and wonderful life were to turn an ungodly world back to Allah; and (2) his mission was similar to that of all prophets of Allah. But the point here is that the Israelites, to whom Jesus was sent, were a hardened race, for whom the message of Jesus was truly a gospel of Mercy.
For anything that Allah wishes to create, He says "Be", and it is . There is no interval between His decree and its accomplishment, except such as He imposes by His decree. Time may be only a projection of our own minds in this world of relativity.
22 So she conceived him and she retired with him to a remote place.
The annunciation and the conception, we may suppose, took place in Nazareth (of Galilee), say 65 miles north of Jerusalem. The delivery took place in Bethlehem about 6 miles south of Jerusalem. It was a remote place, not only with reference to the distance of 71 miles, but because in Bethlehem itself the birth was in an obscure corner under a palm-tree, from which perhaps the babe was afterwards removed to a manger in a stable.
23 And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm-tree: she cried (in her anguish): "Ah! would that I had died before this! Would that I had been a thing forgotten and out of sight!"
She was but human, and suffered the pangs of an expectant mother, with no one to attend on her. The circumstances being peculiar, she had got far away from her people.
24 But he cried to her from beneath the (palm-free): "Grieve not! for thy Lord hath provided a rivulet beneath thee;
25 "And shake towards thyself the trunk of the palm-tree: it will let fall fresh ripe dates upon thee.
Unseen Providence had seen that she should not suffer from thirst or from hunger. The rivulet provided her with water also for ablutions.
26 "So eat and drink and cool (thine) eye. And if thou dost see any man say `I have vowed a fast to (Allah) Most Gracious and this day will I enter into no talk with any human being.' "
Cool thine eye: An idiom for "comfort thyself and be glad". The literal meaning should not, however, be lost sight of. She was to cool her eyes (perhaps full of tears) with the fresh water of the rivulet and take comfort that a remarkable babe had been born to her. She was also to look around, and if any one came near, she was to decline all conversation. It was quite true: she was under a vow, and could not talk to any one.
She was to decline all conversation with man or woman, on the plea of a vow to Allah. The "fast" here does not mean abstinence literally from eating and drinking. She has just been advised to eat the dates and drink of the stream. It means abstinence from the ordinary household meals, and indeed from human intercourse generally.
27 At length she brought the (babe) to her people carrying him (in her arms). They said: "O Mary! truly an amazing thing hast thou brought!
The amazement of the people knew no bounds. In any case they were ready to think the worst of her, as she had disappeared from her kin for some time. But now she comes, shamelessly parading a babe in her arms! How she had disgraced the house of Aaron, the fountain of priesthood! We may suppose that the scene took place in the Temple in Jerusalem, or in Nazareth.
28 "O sister of Aaron! thy father was not a man of evil nor thy mother a woman unchaste!"
Aaron the brother of Moses was the first in the line of Israelite priesthood. Mary and her cousin Elisabeth (mother of Yahya) came of a priestly family, and were therefore, "sisters of Aaron" or daughters of 'Imran (who was Aaron's father). See n. 375 to iii. 35. Mary is reminded of her high lineage and the unexceptionable morals of her father and mother. How, they said, she had fallen, and disgraced the name of her progenitors!
29 But she pointed to the babe. They said: "How can we talk to one who is a child in the cradle?"
What could Mary do? How could she explain? Would they, in their censorious mood, accept her explanation? All she could do was to point to the child, who, she knew, was no ordinary child. And the child came to her rescue. By a miracle he spoke, defended his mother, and preached-to an unbelieving audience.
30 He said: "I am indeed a servant of Allah: He hath given me revelation and made me a prophet;
31 "And He hath made me Blessed wheresoever I be and hath enjoined on me Prayer and Charity as long as I live;
There is a parallelism throughout the accounts of Jesus and Yahya, with some variations. Both the parallelisms and the variations are interesting. For instance Jesus declares at the very outset that he is a servant of Allah, thus negativing the false notion that he was Allah or the son of Allah. The greatness of Yahya is described in terms that are not applied to Jesus, but the verses xix. 14-15 as applied to Yahya are in almost identical terms with those applied to Jesus here. Devotion in Prayer and Charity is a good description of Christ at its best, and pity, purity, and devotion in Yahya are a good description of the ways leading to Prayer and Charity, just as John led to Jesus.
32 "(He) hath made me kind to my mother and not overbearing or miserable;
Overbearing violence is not only unjust and harmful to those on whom it is practised; it is perhaps even more harmful to the person who practises it, for his soul becomes turbid, unsettled, and ultimately unhappy and wretched,-the state of those in Hell. Here the negative qualities are "not overbearing or miserable." As applied to John they were "not overbearing or rebellious." John bore his punishment from the State without any protest or drawing back.
33 "So Peace is on me the day I was born the day that I die and the Day that I shall be raised up to life (again)"!
and Christ was not crucified.
34 Such (was) Jesus the son of Mary: (it is) a statement of truth about which they (vainly) dispute.
The disputations about the nature of Jesus Christ were vain, but also persistent and sanguinary. The modern Christian churches have thrown them into the background, but they would do well to abandon irrational dogmas altogether.
35 It is not befitting to (the majesty of) Allah that He should beget a son. Glory be to Him! When He determines a matter He only says to it "Be" and it is.
Begetting a son is a physical act depending on the needs of men's animal nature. Allah Most High is independent of all needs, and it is derogatory to Him to attribute such an act to Him. It is merely a relic of pagan and anthropomorphic materialist superstitions.
36 Verily Allah is my Lord and your Lord: Him therefore serve ye: this is a Way that is straight.
As opposed to the crooked superstitions which take refuge in all sorts of metaphysical sophistries to prove three in one and one in three. In the Qur-an there is no crookedness (xviii. 1). Christ's teaching was simple, like his life, but the Christians have made it crooked.
37 But the sects differ among themselves: and woe to the Unbelievers because of the (coming) Judgment of a momentous Day!
Judgment: the word in the original is Mash-had, which implies many things: (1) the time or place where evidence is taken, as in a Court of Judgment; (2) the time or place where people are produced (to be judged); and (3) the occasion for such production for the taking of evidence. A very expressive phrase for the Day of Judgment.
38 How plainly will they see and hear the Day that they will appear before Us! But the unjust today are in error manifest!
and that whole passage, where the Resurrection is described.
39 But warn them of the Day of Distress when the matter will be determined: for (behold) they are negligent and they do not believe!
Hasrat: Sighs, sighing, regrets, distress.
40 It is We Who will inherit the earth and all beings thereon: to Us will they all be returned.
Material property passes from one to another: when one dies, another inherits it. Allah gives life and death, and all that survives after physical death goes back to Allah, the original source of all things.
41 Also mention in the Book (the story of) Abraham: he was a man of Truth a prophet.
42 Behold he said to his father: "O my father! why worship that which heareth not and seeth not and can profit thee nothing?
The reference to Abraham here is in relation to his tender solicitude for his father, who had not received the light of Unity, and to whom Abraham wanted to be a guide and friend.
43 "O my father! to me hath come knowledge which hath not reached thee: so follow me: I will guide thee to a Way that is even and straight.
Some are more receptive of Light than others. It is their duty and privilege to guide and point to the right Way.
Sawiyan-right, smooth, even; complete, perfect; hence the derived meaning: in full possession of all the physical senses; in that context, 'not dumb': , when the angel appears in the form of a man, 'completely like' a man, a man 'in all respects.'
44 "O my father! serve not Satan: for Satan is a rebel against (Allah) Most Gracious.
The rebellion is all the more heinous and inexcusable, considering that Allah is Most Just, Most Merciful, Most Gracious.
45 "O my father! I fear lest a Penalty afflict thee from (Allah) Most Gracious so that thou become to Satan a friend."
To entertain a feeling of friendliness, instead of aversion, to Evil, is in itself a degradation of our nature, a Penalty which Allah imposes on our deliberate rejection of the Truth. And the friendliness to Evil also implies the sharing of the outlawry of Evil.
46 (The father) replied: "Dost thou hate my gods O Abraham? If thou forbear not I will indeed stone thee: now get away from me for a good long while!"
Note the gentle persuasive tone of Abraham in his speeches (for we may suppose those sentences to sum up a long course of arguments) and contrasted with the brusque and repellent tone of the father's reply in this verse. The one was the outcome of the true Light which had come to Abraham from Allah, as the other was the outcome of Pagan arrogance and the worship of brute force. The spiritual lesson from this episode of Abraham's life may be stated in four propositions: (1) the pious son is dutiful to his father and wishes him well in all things, material and spiritual, (2) if the father refuses Allah's Light, the son will do his utmost to bring such Light to the father; (3) having received the Light, the son will never renounce that Light, even if he has to forfeit his father's love and renounce his home; (4) even if the father repels him and turns him out, his answer will be a soft answer, full of love and forgiveness on the one hand, but firmness on behalf of Truth on the other.
47 Abraham said: "Peace be on thee: I will pray to my Lord for thy forgiveness: for He is to me Most Gracious.
where this promise of Abraham to pray for his father is referred to, and its limitations pointed out.
48 "And I will turn away from you (all) and from those whom ye invoke besides Allah: I will call on my Lord: Perhaps by my prayer to my Lord I shall be not unblest."
Abraham left his father and the home of his fathers (Ur of the Chaldees) and never returned. He left because he was turned out, and because it was not possible for him to make any compromise with what was false in religion. In return for abuse, he spoke gentle words. And he expressed his fervent hope that at least he (Abraham) would have Allah's blessing in reply to his prayers. Here was a prefigurement of another Hijrat many centuries later! In both cases the prayer was abundantly fulfilled.
49 When he had turned away from them and from those whom they worshipped besides Allah We bestowed on him Isaac and Jacob and each one of them We made a prophet.
Isaac and Isaac's son Jacob are mentioned here as carrying on one line of Abraham's traditions. The other line was carried on by Isma'il, who is mentioned independently five verses lower down, as his line got special honour in the Holy Prophet of Islam. That is why his mention comes after that of Moses.
50 And We bestowed of Our Mercy on them and We granted them lofty honor on the tongue of truth.
Abraham and his son and grandson Isaac and Jacob, and their line, maintained the banner of Allah's truth for many generations, and they won deservedly high praise-the praise of truth-on the tongues of men. Abraham prayed that he should be praised by the tongue of truth among men to come in later ages: xxvi. 84. Ordinary praise may mean nothing: it may be due to selfish flattery on the part of others or artful management by the person praised. Praise on the tongue of sincere truth is praise indeed!
51 Also mention in the Book (the story of) Moses: for he was specially chosen and he was an apostle (and) a prophet.
Moses was (1) especially chosen, and therefore prepared and instructed in all the wisdom of the Egyptians, in order that he might free his people from Egyptian bondage; there may also be a reference to Moses's title of Kalimullah, the one to whom Allah spoke without th eintervention of angels (2) he was a prophet (nabi), in that he received inspiration; and (3) he was a messenger (rasul) in that he had a Book of Revelation, and an Ummat or organised Community, for which he instituted laws.
52 And We called him from the right side of Mount (Sinai) and made him draw near to Us for mystic (converse).
The incident here I think refers to the incidents described more fully . The time is when Moses (with his family) was travelling and grazing the flocks of his father-in-law Jethro, just before he got his commission from Allah. The place is somewhere near Mount Sinai (Jabal Musa). Moses sees a Fire in the distance, but when he goes there, he hears a voice that tells him it is sacred ground. Allah asked him to put off his shoes and to draw near, and when he went near, great mysteries were revealed to him. He was given his commission, and his brother Aaron was given to him to go with him and aid him. It is after that, that he and Aaron went and faced Pharaoh in Egypt. The right side of the mountain may mean that Moses heard the voice from the right side of the mountain as he faced it; or it may have the figurative meaning of "right" in Arabic, i.e., the side which was blessed or sacred ground.
53 And out of Our Mercy We gave him his brother Aaron (also) a prophet.
Moses was diffident, and reluctant to go to Pharaoh as he had an impediment in his tongue, and he asked that his brother Aaron should be associated with him in his mission. Allah in His Mercy granted his request.
54 Also mention in the Book (the story of) Ismail: He was (strictly) true to what he promised and he was an apostle (and) a prophet.
Isma'il was Az-zabih i.e., the chosen sacrifice for Allah in Muslim tradition. When Abraham told him of the sacrifice, he voluntarily offered himself for it, and never flinched from his promise, until the sacrifice was redeemed by the substitution of a ram under Allah's commands. He was the fountain-head of the Arabian Ummat, and in his posterity came the Prophet of Allah. The Ummat and the Book of Islam reflect back the prophethood on Isma'il.
55 He used to enjoin on his people Prayer and Charity and he was most acceptable in the sight of his Lord.
56 Also mention in the Book the case of Idris: he was a man of truth (and sincerity) (and) a prophet:
Idris is mentioned twice in the Qur-an, where he is mentioned among those who patiently persevered., that he was taken up without passing through the portals of death. All we are told is that he was a man of truth and sincerity, and a prophet, and that he had a high position among his people. It is this point which brings him in the series of men just mentioned; he kept himself in touch with his people, and was honoured among them. Spiritual progress need not cut us off from our people, for we have to help and guide them. He kept to truth and piety in the highest station.
57 And We raised him to a lofty station.
58 Those were some of the prophets on whom Allah did bestow His Grace of the posterity of Adam and of those whom We carried (in the Ark) with Noah and of the posterity of Abraham and Israel of those whom We guided and chose; whenever the Signs of (Allah) Most Gracious were rehearsed to them they would fall down in prostrate adoration and in tears.
The earlier generations are grouped into three epochs from a religious point of view: (1) from Adam to Noah, (2) from Noah to Abraham, and (3) from Abraham to an indefinite time, say to the time when the Message of Allah was corrupted and the need arose for the final Messenger of Unity and Truth. Israel is another name for Jacob.
The original is in the Aorist tense, implying that the "Posterity" alluded to includes not only the messengers but their worthy followers who are true to Allah and uphold His standard.
59 But after them there followed a posterity who missed prayers and followed after lusts: soon then will they face Destruction
This selfish godless posterity gains the upper hand at certain times, but even then there is always a minority who see the error of their ways, repent and believe, and live righteous lives. They are not penalised in the Hereafter because they were associated with the ungodly in time. They reap the full reward of their faith and righteousness.
60 Except those who repent and believe and work righteousness: for these will enter the Garden and will not be wronged in the least
61 Gardens of Eternity those which (Allah) Most Gracious has promised to His servants in the Unseen: for His promise must (necessarily) come to pass.
62 They will not there hear any vain discourse but only salutations of peace: and they will have therein their sustenance morning and evening.
Salam, translated "Peace", has a much wider signification. It includes (1) a sense of security and permanence, which is unknown in this life; (2) soundness, freedom from defects, perfection as in the word salim; (3) preservation, salvation, deliverance, as in the word sallama, (4) salutation, accord with those around us; (5) resignation, in the sense that we are satisfied and not discontented; besides (6) the ordinary meaning of Peace, i.e., freedom from any jarring element. All these shades of meaning are implied in the word Islam. (19.62)
Rizq: literally sustenance or means of subsistence, the term covers all the means of perfect satisfaction of body and soul. Morning and evening, i.e., early and late, all the time, always. (19.62)
63 Such is the Garden which We give as an inheritance to those of Our Servants who guard against evil.
64 (The angels say:) "We descend not but by command of thy Lord: to Him belongeth what is before us and what is behind us and what is between: and thy Lord never doth forget"
We are apt to be impatient of the evils we see around us. We may give of our best service to Allah, and yet see no results. In our human short-sightedness we may complain within ourselves. But we must not be impatient. The angels of Grace come not haphazard, but by command of Allah according to His Universal Will and Purpose. Allah does not forget. If things are delayed, it is in accordance with a wise providence, which cares for all. Our plain duty is to be patient and constant in His service. (19.64)
65 "Lord of the heavens and of the earth and of all that is between them: so worship Him and be constant and patient in His worship: knowest thou of any who is worthy of the same Name as He?"
The more we taste of the truth and mystery of life, the more do we realise that there is no one to be mentioned in the same breath as Allah. He is above all names. But when we think of His beautiful qualities, and picture them to ourselves by names which give us some idea of Him, we can search the whole wide world of our imagination, and we shall not find another to be compared with Him in name or quality. He is the One: praise be to Him! (19.65)
66 Man says: "What! when I am dead shall I then be raised up alive?"
67 But does not man call to mind that We created him before out of nothing?
68 So by thy Lord without doubt We shall gather them together and (also) the Evil Ones (with them); then shall We bring them forth on their knees round about Hell;
The disbelief in a future life is not merely a philosophic doubt, but a warped will, a disingenuous obstinacy in face of our inner spiritual instincts and experiences. We were nothing before. Cannot the same Allah, Who created us out of nothing also continue our personality? But if we refuse to accept His light and guidance, our state will grow worse and worse. We shall be deprived of His grace. We shall be herded with satans. In utter humiliation we shall be faced with all the consequences of our refusal of Truth. (19.68)
Round about Hell: There are many ways leading to evil, and people get to it from all round. Hence the mention of the seven Gates to Hell: see xv. 44. and n. 1977. (19.68)
69 Then shall We certainly drag out from every sect all those who were worst in obstinate rebellion against (Allah) Most Gracious.
70 And certainly We know best those who are most worthy of being burned therein.
71 Not one of you but will pass over it: this is with thy Lord a Decree which must be accomplished.
Three interpretations are possible, (1) The general interpretation is that every person must pass through or by or over the Fire. Those who have had Taqwa (see. n. 26 to ii. 2) will be saved by Allah's Mercy, while unrepentant sinners will suffer the torments in ignominy, (2) If we refer the pronoun "you" to those "in obstinate rebellion" in verse 69 above, both leaders and followers in sin, this verse only applies to the wicked, (3) Some refer this verse to the Bridge over Hell, the Bridge Sirat, over which all must pass to their final Destiny. This Bridge is not mentioned in the Qur-an. (19.71)
72 But We shall save those who guarded against evil and We shall leave the wrongdoers therein (humbled) to their knees.
73 When Our Clear Signs are rehearsed to them the Unbelievers say to those who believe "Which of the two sides is best in point of position? Which makes the best show in council?"
The Unbelievers may, for a time, make a better show in worldly position, or in people's assemblages where things are judged by the counting of heads. But Truth must prevail even in this world, and ultimately the positions must be reversed. (19.73)
74 But how many (countless) generations before them have We destroyed who were even better in equipment and in glitter to the eye?
75 Say: "If any men go astray (Allah) Most Gracious extends (the rope) to them. Until when they see the warning of Allah (being fulfilled) either in punishment or in (the approach of) the Hour they will at length realize who is worst in position and (who) weakest in forces!
Allah's warning is that every evil deed must have its punishment, and that there will be a Hereafter, the Day of Judgment, or the Hour, as it is frequently called. The punishment of evil often begins in this very life. For instance, over-indulgence and excesses of all kinds bring on their Nemesis quite soon in this very life. But some subtler forms of selfishness and sin will be punished as every evil will be punished-in its own good time, as the Hour approaches. In either case, the arrogant boasting sinners will realise that their taunt-who is best in position and in forces? (xix. 73)-is turned against themselves. (19.75)
76 "And Allah doth advance in guidance those who seek guidance; and the things that endure. Good Deeds are best in the sight of thy Lord as rewards and best in respect of (their) eventual returns."
These lines are the same as in xviii. 46 (second clause), (where see n. 2387), except that the word maradd (eventual returns) is here substituted for amal (hope). The meaning is practically the same: but "hope" is more appropriate in the passage dealing generally with this world's goods, and "eventual returns" in the passage dealing with the sinner's specific investments and commitments in worldly position and organised cliques. (19.76)
77 Hast thou then seen the (sort of) man who rejects Our Signs yet says: "I shall certainly be given wealth and children"?
Besides the man who boasts of wealth and power in actual possession, there is a type of man who boasts of getting them in the future and builds his worldly hopes thereon. Is he sure? He denies Allah, and His goodness and Mercy. But all good is in the hands of Allah. Can such a man then bind Allah to bless him when he rejects faith in Allah? Or does he pretend that he has penetrated to the mysteries of the future? For no man can tell what the future holds for him. (19.77)
78 Has he penetrated to the Unseen or has he taken a contract with (Allah) Most Gracious?
79 Nay! We shall record what he says and We Shall add and add to his punishment.
Such a man deserves double punishment,-for rejecting Allah, and for his blasphemies with His holy name. (19.79)
80 To Us shall return all that he talks of and he shall appear before Us bare and alone.
Literally, "We shall inherit", Cf. xix. 40 and n. 2492. Even if the man had property and power, it must go back to the Source of all things, and the man must appear before the Judgment-seat, alone and unaccompanied, stripped of all the things from which he expected so much! (19.80)
81 And they have taken (for worship) gods other than Allah to give them power and glory! 2525
'Izz=exalted rank, glory, power, might, the ability to impose one's will or to carry out one's will. (19.81)
82 Instead they shall reject their worship and become adversaries against them.
Cf. x. 28-30, where the idols deny that they knew anything of their worship, and leave their worshippers in the lurch; and v. 119, where Jesus denies that he asked for worship, and leaves his false worshippers to the punishment of Allah. (19.82)
83 Seest thou not that We have set the Evil Ones on against the Unbelievers to incite them with fury?
Under the laws instituted by Allah, when evil reaches a certain stage of rebellion and defiance, it is left to gather momentum and to rush with fury to its own destruction. It is given a certain amount of respite, as a last chance: but failing repentance, its days are numbered. The godly therefore should not worry themselves over the apparent worldly success of evil, but should get on with their own duties in a spirit of trust in Allah. (19.83)
84 So make no haste against them for We but count out to them a (limited) number (of days).
85 The day We shall gather the righteous to (Allah) Most Gracious like a band presented before a king for honors.
86 And We shall drive the sinners to Hell like thirsty cattle driven down to water
Note the contrast between the saved and the doomed. The one march with dignity like honoured ones before a king, and the other rush in anguish to their punishment like a herd of cattle driven down by thirst to their watering place. Note the metaphor of the water. They rush madly for water but are plunged into the Fire! (19.86)
87 None shall have the power of intercession but such a one as has received permission (or promise) from (Allah) Most Gracious.
88 They say: "(Allah) Most Gracious has begotten a son!"
89 Indeed ye have put forth a thing most monstrous!
The belief in Allah begetting a son is not a question merely of words or of speculative thought. It is a stupendous blasphemy against Allah. It lowers Allah to the level of an animal. If combined with the doctrine of vicarious atonement, it amounts to a negation of Allah's justice and man's personal responsibility. It is destructive of all moral and spiritual order, and is condemned in the strongest possible terms. (19.89)
90 At if the skies are ready to burst the earth to split asunder and the mountains to fall down in utter ruin.
91 That they should invoke a son for (Allah) Most Gracious.
92 For it is not consonant with the majesty of (Allah) Most Gracious that He should beget a son.
This basic principle was laid down early in the argument (xix. 35). It was illustrated by a reference to the personal history of many messengers, including Jesus himself, who behaved justly as men to their kith and kin and humbly served Allah. The evil results of such superstitions were pointed out in the case of many previous generations which went to their ruin by dishonouring Allah. And the argument is now rounded off towards the close of the Sura. (19.92)
93 Not one of the beings in the heavens and the earth but must come to (Allah) Most Gracious as a servant.
94 He does take and account of them (all) and hath numbered them (all) exactly.
Allah has no sons or favourites or parasites, such as we associate with human beings. On the other hand every creature of His gets His love, and His cherishing care. Everyone of them, however humble, is individually marked before His Throne of Justice and Mercy, and will stand before Him on his own deserts. (19.94)
95 And every one of them will come to him singly on the Day of Judgment.
96 On those who believe and work deeds of righteousness will (Allah) Most Gracious bestow Love.
His own love, and the love of man's fellow-creatures, in this world and in the Hereafter. Goodness breeds love and peace, and sin breeds hatred and contention. (19.96)
97 So have We made the (Qur'an) easy in thine own tongue that with it thou mayest give Glad Tidings to the righteous and warnings to people given to contention.
98 But how many (countless) generation before them have We destroyed? Canst thou find a single one of them (now) or hear (so much as) a whisper of them?
Whats The Real Story Of Mary From the Holy Quran?
May Allah bless you, my brother for your effort and time.
Jazak Allah khayr, isa.
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Reply:mr muslim doctor yahoo is meant for asking some serious questions. and not for explanation of some book views and ideas or spreading ur own believes.
create ur own page and spread ur views as much as u can. but pls don't use yahoo for these things.
Reply:So...are asking us about Mary's real story or telling us the real story of Mary
Reply:The real story is: THEY MADE IT UP. IT'S A LIE.
Reply:I did not intend to read the book so I will not answer you Jesus was messiah there is the answer you need
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Reply:using the quran to prove the existince of a person who probably never lived is called circular logic
and you as a doctor should know virgin births are just myths
Reply:there is no impossible to our god . as our god made our father Adm without father or mother %26amp; our god made jesus without mother .
Reply:Wow, what you perceive to be the "Real" story and what is reality are as far apart as the east is from the west!
I would not refer you to anyone as a doctor because you believe that it is O.K. for your prophet Muhammed at 54 years of age to have sexual intercourse with a 9 year old "Child"!!
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I wonder what other Horrendous, Evil, things you would believe that would jeopardize, and be a detriment to, someones physical and mental health!!
In todays civilized, modern culture, people that did the things that Muhammed did are put in prison!
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Broken Teeth
This is the only Sura which begins with these five Abbreviated Letters, K.,H.,Y.,A.,S. For Abbreviated Letters generally.
2 (This is) a recital of the Mercy of thy Lord to His Servant Zakariya.
The Mercy of Allah to Zakriya was shown in many ways: (1) in the acceptance of his prayer; (2) in bestowing a son like Yahya; and (3) in the love between father and son, in addition to the work which Yahya did as Allah's Messenger for the world.
3 Behold! he cried to his Lord in secret .
In secret: because he feared that his own family and relatives were going wrong, and he wanted to keep the lamp of Allah burning bright. He could not very well mention the fear about his colleagues (who were his relations)
4 Praying: "O my Lord! infirm indeed are my bones and the hair of my head doth glisten with grey: but never am I unblest O my Lord in my prayer to Thee!
This preface shows the fervent faith of Zakariya. Zakariya was a prophet of the Most High Allah. His office was in the Temple, and his relatives were his colleagues. But he found in them no true spirit of the service of Allah and man. He was filled with anxiety as to who would uphold the godly ideas he had in mind, which were strange to his worldly colleagues.
5 "Now I fear (what) my relatives (and colleagues) (will do) after me: but my wife is barren: so give me an heir as from Thyself
His was not merely a desire for a son. If it had been, he would have prayed much earlier in his life, when he was a young man. He was too full of true piety to put merely selfish things into his prayers. But here was a public need, in the service of the Lord.
6 "(One that) will (truly) represent me and represent the posterity of Jacob; and make him O my Lord! one with whom Thou art well-pleased!"
It is true that an heir inherits property, but his higher duty is to represent in everything the personality of him from whom he inherits. It is doubtful whether Zakariya had any worldly property. But he had character and virtue, as a man of God, and this he wanted to transmit to his heir as his most precious possession. It was almost the most precious possession of the posterity of Jacob. The people around him had fallen away from Allah's Message. Could his heir, like him, try and renew it?
7 (His prayer was answered): "O Zakariya! We give thee good news of a son: his name shall be Yahya: on none by that name have We conferred distinction before."
This was John the Baptist, the forerunner of Jesus. In accordance with his father's prayer he, and Jesus for whom he prepared the way, renewed the Message of Allah, which had been corrupted and lost among the Israelites. The Arabic form Yahya suggests "Life". The Hebrew form is Johanan, which means "Jehovah has been Gracious".
8 He said: "O my Lord! how shall I have a son when my wife is barren and I have grown quite decrepit from old age?"
Who is the "He" in this clause? As I have construed it, following the majority of Commentators, it means the angel who brought the message from Allah. But some Commentators construe it to refer to Zakariya. In that case the meaning will be: Zakariya after a little reflection said (in his wonder) "So!", i.e., "Can it really be so? Can I really have a son in my old age?"
9 He said: "So (it will be): thy Lord saith `That is easy for Me: I did indeed create thee before when thou hadst been nothing!' "
Every man was nothing just before he was created, i.e., his personality was called into being by Allah. Even if there are material processes in forming the body, in accordance with the laws of nature, the real creative force is the power of Allah. But here there is a subtler meaning. John was the harbinger of Jesus, preparing the way for him; and this sentence also prepares us for the more wonderful birth of Jesus himself, see verse 21 below. Everything is possible with Allah.
10 (Zakariya) said "O my Lord! give me a Sign." "Thy Sign" was the answer "shall be that thou shalt speak to no man for three nights although thou art not dumb." 2464 2465
The "Sign", was in order to convince Zakariya that the Lord's promise was true.
11 So Zakariya came out to his people from his chamber: he told them by
signs to celebrate Allah's praises in the morning and in the evening.
12 (To his son came the command): "O Yahya! take hold of the Book with might": and We gave him wisdom even as a youth.
Time passes. The son is born. In this section of the Sura the centre of interest is Yahya, and the instruction is now given to him. 'Keep fast hold of Allah's revelation with all your might': for an unbelieving world had either corrupted or neglected it, and Yahya (John the Baptist) was to prepare the way for, Jesus, who was coming to renew and re-interpret it.
Hukm, translated Wisdom, implies something more than Wisdom; it is the Wisdom or Judgment that is entitied to judge and command, as in the matter of denouncing sin.
13 And pity (for all creatures) as from Us and purity: he was devout
John the Baptist did not live long. He was imprisoned by Herod, the tetrarch (provincial ruler under the Roman Empire), whom he had reproved for his sins, and eventually beheaded at the instigation of the woman with whom Herod was infatuated. But even in his young life, he was granted (1) wisdom by Allah, for he boldly denounced sin; (2) gentle pity and love for all Allah's creatures, for he moved among the humble and lowly, and despised "soft raiment"; and (3) purity of life, for he renounced the world and lived in the wilderness. All his work he did in his youth. These things showed themselves in his conduct, for he was devout, showing love to Allah and to Allah's creatures, and more particularly to his parents (for we are considering that aspect of his life): this was also shown by the fact that he never used violence, from an attitude of arrogance, nor entertained a spirit of rebellion against divine Law.
14 And kind to his parents and he was not overbearing or rebellious.
15 So Peace on him the day he was born the day that he dies and the day that he will be raised up to life (again)!
This is spoken as in the life-time of Yahya. Peace and Allah's Blessings, were on him when he was born; they continue when he is about to die an unjust death at the hands of a tyrant; and they will be specially manifest at the Day of Judgment.
16 Relate in the Book (the story of) Mary when she withdrew from her family to a place in the East.
the story of Mary. Here the whole theme is different: it is the personal side of the experiences of the worshippers of Allah in relation to their families or environment.
To a private eastern chamber, perhaps in the Temple. She went into privacy, from her people and from people in general, for prayer and devotion. It was in this state of purity that the angel appeared to her in the shape of a man. She thought it was a man. She was frightened, and she adjured him not to invade her privacy.
17 She placed a screen (to screen herself) from them: then We sent to her Our angel and he appeared before her as a man in all respects.
18 She said: "I seek refuge from thee to (Allah) Most Gracious: (come not near) if thou dost fear Allah."
19 He said: "Nay I am only a messenger from thy Lord (to announce) to thee the gift of a holy son."
Allah had destined her to be the mother of the Prophet Jesus Christ, and now had come the time when this should be announced to her.
20 She said: "How shall I have a son seeing that no man has touched me and I am not unchaste?"
21 He said: "So (it will be): thy Lord saith `That is easy for Me: and (We wish) to appoint him as a Sign unto men and a Mercy from Us': it is a matter (so) decreed."
The mission of Jesus is announced in two ways (1) he was to be a Sign to men; his wonderful birth and wonderful life were to turn an ungodly world back to Allah; and (2) his mission was similar to that of all prophets of Allah. But the point here is that the Israelites, to whom Jesus was sent, were a hardened race, for whom the message of Jesus was truly a gospel of Mercy.
For anything that Allah wishes to create, He says "Be", and it is . There is no interval between His decree and its accomplishment, except such as He imposes by His decree. Time may be only a projection of our own minds in this world of relativity.
22 So she conceived him and she retired with him to a remote place.
The annunciation and the conception, we may suppose, took place in Nazareth (of Galilee), say 65 miles north of Jerusalem. The delivery took place in Bethlehem about 6 miles south of Jerusalem. It was a remote place, not only with reference to the distance of 71 miles, but because in Bethlehem itself the birth was in an obscure corner under a palm-tree, from which perhaps the babe was afterwards removed to a manger in a stable.
23 And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm-tree: she cried (in her anguish): "Ah! would that I had died before this! Would that I had been a thing forgotten and out of sight!"
She was but human, and suffered the pangs of an expectant mother, with no one to attend on her. The circumstances being peculiar, she had got far away from her people.
24 But he cried to her from beneath the (palm-free): "Grieve not! for thy Lord hath provided a rivulet beneath thee;
25 "And shake towards thyself the trunk of the palm-tree: it will let fall fresh ripe dates upon thee.
Unseen Providence had seen that she should not suffer from thirst or from hunger. The rivulet provided her with water also for ablutions.
26 "So eat and drink and cool (thine) eye. And if thou dost see any man say `I have vowed a fast to (Allah) Most Gracious and this day will I enter into no talk with any human being.' "
Cool thine eye: An idiom for "comfort thyself and be glad". The literal meaning should not, however, be lost sight of. She was to cool her eyes (perhaps full of tears) with the fresh water of the rivulet and take comfort that a remarkable babe had been born to her. She was also to look around, and if any one came near, she was to decline all conversation. It was quite true: she was under a vow, and could not talk to any one.
She was to decline all conversation with man or woman, on the plea of a vow to Allah. The "fast" here does not mean abstinence literally from eating and drinking. She has just been advised to eat the dates and drink of the stream. It means abstinence from the ordinary household meals, and indeed from human intercourse generally.
27 At length she brought the (babe) to her people carrying him (in her arms). They said: "O Mary! truly an amazing thing hast thou brought!
The amazement of the people knew no bounds. In any case they were ready to think the worst of her, as she had disappeared from her kin for some time. But now she comes, shamelessly parading a babe in her arms! How she had disgraced the house of Aaron, the fountain of priesthood! We may suppose that the scene took place in the Temple in Jerusalem, or in Nazareth.
28 "O sister of Aaron! thy father was not a man of evil nor thy mother a woman unchaste!"
Aaron the brother of Moses was the first in the line of Israelite priesthood. Mary and her cousin Elisabeth (mother of Yahya) came of a priestly family, and were therefore, "sisters of Aaron" or daughters of 'Imran (who was Aaron's father). See n. 375 to iii. 35. Mary is reminded of her high lineage and the unexceptionable morals of her father and mother. How, they said, she had fallen, and disgraced the name of her progenitors!
29 But she pointed to the babe. They said: "How can we talk to one who is a child in the cradle?"
What could Mary do? How could she explain? Would they, in their censorious mood, accept her explanation? All she could do was to point to the child, who, she knew, was no ordinary child. And the child came to her rescue. By a miracle he spoke, defended his mother, and preached-to an unbelieving audience.
30 He said: "I am indeed a servant of Allah: He hath given me revelation and made me a prophet;
31 "And He hath made me Blessed wheresoever I be and hath enjoined on me Prayer and Charity as long as I live;
There is a parallelism throughout the accounts of Jesus and Yahya, with some variations. Both the parallelisms and the variations are interesting. For instance Jesus declares at the very outset that he is a servant of Allah, thus negativing the false notion that he was Allah or the son of Allah. The greatness of Yahya is described in terms that are not applied to Jesus, but the verses xix. 14-15 as applied to Yahya are in almost identical terms with those applied to Jesus here. Devotion in Prayer and Charity is a good description of Christ at its best, and pity, purity, and devotion in Yahya are a good description of the ways leading to Prayer and Charity, just as John led to Jesus.
32 "(He) hath made me kind to my mother and not overbearing or miserable;
Overbearing violence is not only unjust and harmful to those on whom it is practised; it is perhaps even more harmful to the person who practises it, for his soul becomes turbid, unsettled, and ultimately unhappy and wretched,-the state of those in Hell. Here the negative qualities are "not overbearing or miserable." As applied to John they were "not overbearing or rebellious." John bore his punishment from the State without any protest or drawing back.
33 "So Peace is on me the day I was born the day that I die and the Day that I shall be raised up to life (again)"!
and Christ was not crucified.
34 Such (was) Jesus the son of Mary: (it is) a statement of truth about which they (vainly) dispute.
The disputations about the nature of Jesus Christ were vain, but also persistent and sanguinary. The modern Christian churches have thrown them into the background, but they would do well to abandon irrational dogmas altogether.
35 It is not befitting to (the majesty of) Allah that He should beget a son. Glory be to Him! When He determines a matter He only says to it "Be" and it is.
Begetting a son is a physical act depending on the needs of men's animal nature. Allah Most High is independent of all needs, and it is derogatory to Him to attribute such an act to Him. It is merely a relic of pagan and anthropomorphic materialist superstitions.
36 Verily Allah is my Lord and your Lord: Him therefore serve ye: this is a Way that is straight.
As opposed to the crooked superstitions which take refuge in all sorts of metaphysical sophistries to prove three in one and one in three. In the Qur-an there is no crookedness (xviii. 1). Christ's teaching was simple, like his life, but the Christians have made it crooked.
37 But the sects differ among themselves: and woe to the Unbelievers because of the (coming) Judgment of a momentous Day!
Judgment: the word in the original is Mash-had, which implies many things: (1) the time or place where evidence is taken, as in a Court of Judgment; (2) the time or place where people are produced (to be judged); and (3) the occasion for such production for the taking of evidence. A very expressive phrase for the Day of Judgment.
38 How plainly will they see and hear the Day that they will appear before Us! But the unjust today are in error manifest!
and that whole passage, where the Resurrection is described.
39 But warn them of the Day of Distress when the matter will be determined: for (behold) they are negligent and they do not believe!
Hasrat: Sighs, sighing, regrets, distress.
40 It is We Who will inherit the earth and all beings thereon: to Us will they all be returned.
Material property passes from one to another: when one dies, another inherits it. Allah gives life and death, and all that survives after physical death goes back to Allah, the original source of all things.
41 Also mention in the Book (the story of) Abraham: he was a man of Truth a prophet.
42 Behold he said to his father: "O my father! why worship that which heareth not and seeth not and can profit thee nothing?
The reference to Abraham here is in relation to his tender solicitude for his father, who had not received the light of Unity, and to whom Abraham wanted to be a guide and friend.
43 "O my father! to me hath come knowledge which hath not reached thee: so follow me: I will guide thee to a Way that is even and straight.
Some are more receptive of Light than others. It is their duty and privilege to guide and point to the right Way.
Sawiyan-right, smooth, even; complete, perfect; hence the derived meaning: in full possession of all the physical senses; in that context, 'not dumb': , when the angel appears in the form of a man, 'completely like' a man, a man 'in all respects.'
44 "O my father! serve not Satan: for Satan is a rebel against (Allah) Most Gracious.
The rebellion is all the more heinous and inexcusable, considering that Allah is Most Just, Most Merciful, Most Gracious.
45 "O my father! I fear lest a Penalty afflict thee from (Allah) Most Gracious so that thou become to Satan a friend."
To entertain a feeling of friendliness, instead of aversion, to Evil, is in itself a degradation of our nature, a Penalty which Allah imposes on our deliberate rejection of the Truth. And the friendliness to Evil also implies the sharing of the outlawry of Evil.
46 (The father) replied: "Dost thou hate my gods O Abraham? If thou forbear not I will indeed stone thee: now get away from me for a good long while!"
Note the gentle persuasive tone of Abraham in his speeches (for we may suppose those sentences to sum up a long course of arguments) and contrasted with the brusque and repellent tone of the father's reply in this verse. The one was the outcome of the true Light which had come to Abraham from Allah, as the other was the outcome of Pagan arrogance and the worship of brute force. The spiritual lesson from this episode of Abraham's life may be stated in four propositions: (1) the pious son is dutiful to his father and wishes him well in all things, material and spiritual, (2) if the father refuses Allah's Light, the son will do his utmost to bring such Light to the father; (3) having received the Light, the son will never renounce that Light, even if he has to forfeit his father's love and renounce his home; (4) even if the father repels him and turns him out, his answer will be a soft answer, full of love and forgiveness on the one hand, but firmness on behalf of Truth on the other.
47 Abraham said: "Peace be on thee: I will pray to my Lord for thy forgiveness: for He is to me Most Gracious.
where this promise of Abraham to pray for his father is referred to, and its limitations pointed out.
48 "And I will turn away from you (all) and from those whom ye invoke besides Allah: I will call on my Lord: Perhaps by my prayer to my Lord I shall be not unblest."
Abraham left his father and the home of his fathers (Ur of the Chaldees) and never returned. He left because he was turned out, and because it was not possible for him to make any compromise with what was false in religion. In return for abuse, he spoke gentle words. And he expressed his fervent hope that at least he (Abraham) would have Allah's blessing in reply to his prayers. Here was a prefigurement of another Hijrat many centuries later! In both cases the prayer was abundantly fulfilled.
49 When he had turned away from them and from those whom they worshipped besides Allah We bestowed on him Isaac and Jacob and each one of them We made a prophet.
Isaac and Isaac's son Jacob are mentioned here as carrying on one line of Abraham's traditions. The other line was carried on by Isma'il, who is mentioned independently five verses lower down, as his line got special honour in the Holy Prophet of Islam. That is why his mention comes after that of Moses.
50 And We bestowed of Our Mercy on them and We granted them lofty honor on the tongue of truth.
Abraham and his son and grandson Isaac and Jacob, and their line, maintained the banner of Allah's truth for many generations, and they won deservedly high praise-the praise of truth-on the tongues of men. Abraham prayed that he should be praised by the tongue of truth among men to come in later ages: xxvi. 84. Ordinary praise may mean nothing: it may be due to selfish flattery on the part of others or artful management by the person praised. Praise on the tongue of sincere truth is praise indeed!
51 Also mention in the Book (the story of) Moses: for he was specially chosen and he was an apostle (and) a prophet.
Moses was (1) especially chosen, and therefore prepared and instructed in all the wisdom of the Egyptians, in order that he might free his people from Egyptian bondage; there may also be a reference to Moses's title of Kalimullah, the one to whom Allah spoke without th eintervention of angels (2) he was a prophet (nabi), in that he received inspiration; and (3) he was a messenger (rasul) in that he had a Book of Revelation, and an Ummat or organised Community, for which he instituted laws.
52 And We called him from the right side of Mount (Sinai) and made him draw near to Us for mystic (converse).
The incident here I think refers to the incidents described more fully . The time is when Moses (with his family) was travelling and grazing the flocks of his father-in-law Jethro, just before he got his commission from Allah. The place is somewhere near Mount Sinai (Jabal Musa). Moses sees a Fire in the distance, but when he goes there, he hears a voice that tells him it is sacred ground. Allah asked him to put off his shoes and to draw near, and when he went near, great mysteries were revealed to him. He was given his commission, and his brother Aaron was given to him to go with him and aid him. It is after that, that he and Aaron went and faced Pharaoh in Egypt. The right side of the mountain may mean that Moses heard the voice from the right side of the mountain as he faced it; or it may have the figurative meaning of "right" in Arabic, i.e., the side which was blessed or sacred ground.
53 And out of Our Mercy We gave him his brother Aaron (also) a prophet.
Moses was diffident, and reluctant to go to Pharaoh as he had an impediment in his tongue, and he asked that his brother Aaron should be associated with him in his mission. Allah in His Mercy granted his request.
54 Also mention in the Book (the story of) Ismail: He was (strictly) true to what he promised and he was an apostle (and) a prophet.
Isma'il was Az-zabih i.e., the chosen sacrifice for Allah in Muslim tradition. When Abraham told him of the sacrifice, he voluntarily offered himself for it, and never flinched from his promise, until the sacrifice was redeemed by the substitution of a ram under Allah's commands. He was the fountain-head of the Arabian Ummat, and in his posterity came the Prophet of Allah. The Ummat and the Book of Islam reflect back the prophethood on Isma'il.
55 He used to enjoin on his people Prayer and Charity and he was most acceptable in the sight of his Lord.
56 Also mention in the Book the case of Idris: he was a man of truth (and sincerity) (and) a prophet:
Idris is mentioned twice in the Qur-an, where he is mentioned among those who patiently persevered., that he was taken up without passing through the portals of death. All we are told is that he was a man of truth and sincerity, and a prophet, and that he had a high position among his people. It is this point which brings him in the series of men just mentioned; he kept himself in touch with his people, and was honoured among them. Spiritual progress need not cut us off from our people, for we have to help and guide them. He kept to truth and piety in the highest station.
57 And We raised him to a lofty station.
58 Those were some of the prophets on whom Allah did bestow His Grace of the posterity of Adam and of those whom We carried (in the Ark) with Noah and of the posterity of Abraham and Israel of those whom We guided and chose; whenever the Signs of (Allah) Most Gracious were rehearsed to them they would fall down in prostrate adoration and in tears.
The earlier generations are grouped into three epochs from a religious point of view: (1) from Adam to Noah, (2) from Noah to Abraham, and (3) from Abraham to an indefinite time, say to the time when the Message of Allah was corrupted and the need arose for the final Messenger of Unity and Truth. Israel is another name for Jacob.
The original is in the Aorist tense, implying that the "Posterity" alluded to includes not only the messengers but their worthy followers who are true to Allah and uphold His standard.
59 But after them there followed a posterity who missed prayers and followed after lusts: soon then will they face Destruction
This selfish godless posterity gains the upper hand at certain times, but even then there is always a minority who see the error of their ways, repent and believe, and live righteous lives. They are not penalised in the Hereafter because they were associated with the ungodly in time. They reap the full reward of their faith and righteousness.
60 Except those who repent and believe and work righteousness: for these will enter the Garden and will not be wronged in the least
61 Gardens of Eternity those which (Allah) Most Gracious has promised to His servants in the Unseen: for His promise must (necessarily) come to pass.
62 They will not there hear any vain discourse but only salutations of peace: and they will have therein their sustenance morning and evening.
Salam, translated "Peace", has a much wider signification. It includes (1) a sense of security and permanence, which is unknown in this life; (2) soundness, freedom from defects, perfection as in the word salim; (3) preservation, salvation, deliverance, as in the word sallama, (4) salutation, accord with those around us; (5) resignation, in the sense that we are satisfied and not discontented; besides (6) the ordinary meaning of Peace, i.e., freedom from any jarring element. All these shades of meaning are implied in the word Islam. (19.62)
Rizq: literally sustenance or means of subsistence, the term covers all the means of perfect satisfaction of body and soul. Morning and evening, i.e., early and late, all the time, always. (19.62)
63 Such is the Garden which We give as an inheritance to those of Our Servants who guard against evil.
64 (The angels say:) "We descend not but by command of thy Lord: to Him belongeth what is before us and what is behind us and what is between: and thy Lord never doth forget"
We are apt to be impatient of the evils we see around us. We may give of our best service to Allah, and yet see no results. In our human short-sightedness we may complain within ourselves. But we must not be impatient. The angels of Grace come not haphazard, but by command of Allah according to His Universal Will and Purpose. Allah does not forget. If things are delayed, it is in accordance with a wise providence, which cares for all. Our plain duty is to be patient and constant in His service. (19.64)
65 "Lord of the heavens and of the earth and of all that is between them: so worship Him and be constant and patient in His worship: knowest thou of any who is worthy of the same Name as He?"
The more we taste of the truth and mystery of life, the more do we realise that there is no one to be mentioned in the same breath as Allah. He is above all names. But when we think of His beautiful qualities, and picture them to ourselves by names which give us some idea of Him, we can search the whole wide world of our imagination, and we shall not find another to be compared with Him in name or quality. He is the One: praise be to Him! (19.65)
66 Man says: "What! when I am dead shall I then be raised up alive?"
67 But does not man call to mind that We created him before out of nothing?
68 So by thy Lord without doubt We shall gather them together and (also) the Evil Ones (with them); then shall We bring them forth on their knees round about Hell;
The disbelief in a future life is not merely a philosophic doubt, but a warped will, a disingenuous obstinacy in face of our inner spiritual instincts and experiences. We were nothing before. Cannot the same Allah, Who created us out of nothing also continue our personality? But if we refuse to accept His light and guidance, our state will grow worse and worse. We shall be deprived of His grace. We shall be herded with satans. In utter humiliation we shall be faced with all the consequences of our refusal of Truth. (19.68)
Round about Hell: There are many ways leading to evil, and people get to it from all round. Hence the mention of the seven Gates to Hell: see xv. 44. and n. 1977. (19.68)
69 Then shall We certainly drag out from every sect all those who were worst in obstinate rebellion against (Allah) Most Gracious.
70 And certainly We know best those who are most worthy of being burned therein.
71 Not one of you but will pass over it: this is with thy Lord a Decree which must be accomplished.
Three interpretations are possible, (1) The general interpretation is that every person must pass through or by or over the Fire. Those who have had Taqwa (see. n. 26 to ii. 2) will be saved by Allah's Mercy, while unrepentant sinners will suffer the torments in ignominy, (2) If we refer the pronoun "you" to those "in obstinate rebellion" in verse 69 above, both leaders and followers in sin, this verse only applies to the wicked, (3) Some refer this verse to the Bridge over Hell, the Bridge Sirat, over which all must pass to their final Destiny. This Bridge is not mentioned in the Qur-an. (19.71)
72 But We shall save those who guarded against evil and We shall leave the wrongdoers therein (humbled) to their knees.
73 When Our Clear Signs are rehearsed to them the Unbelievers say to those who believe "Which of the two sides is best in point of position? Which makes the best show in council?"
The Unbelievers may, for a time, make a better show in worldly position, or in people's assemblages where things are judged by the counting of heads. But Truth must prevail even in this world, and ultimately the positions must be reversed. (19.73)
74 But how many (countless) generations before them have We destroyed who were even better in equipment and in glitter to the eye?
75 Say: "If any men go astray (Allah) Most Gracious extends (the rope) to them. Until when they see the warning of Allah (being fulfilled) either in punishment or in (the approach of) the Hour they will at length realize who is worst in position and (who) weakest in forces!
Allah's warning is that every evil deed must have its punishment, and that there will be a Hereafter, the Day of Judgment, or the Hour, as it is frequently called. The punishment of evil often begins in this very life. For instance, over-indulgence and excesses of all kinds bring on their Nemesis quite soon in this very life. But some subtler forms of selfishness and sin will be punished as every evil will be punished-in its own good time, as the Hour approaches. In either case, the arrogant boasting sinners will realise that their taunt-who is best in position and in forces? (xix. 73)-is turned against themselves. (19.75)
76 "And Allah doth advance in guidance those who seek guidance; and the things that endure. Good Deeds are best in the sight of thy Lord as rewards and best in respect of (their) eventual returns."
These lines are the same as in xviii. 46 (second clause), (where see n. 2387), except that the word maradd (eventual returns) is here substituted for amal (hope). The meaning is practically the same: but "hope" is more appropriate in the passage dealing generally with this world's goods, and "eventual returns" in the passage dealing with the sinner's specific investments and commitments in worldly position and organised cliques. (19.76)
77 Hast thou then seen the (sort of) man who rejects Our Signs yet says: "I shall certainly be given wealth and children"?
Besides the man who boasts of wealth and power in actual possession, there is a type of man who boasts of getting them in the future and builds his worldly hopes thereon. Is he sure? He denies Allah, and His goodness and Mercy. But all good is in the hands of Allah. Can such a man then bind Allah to bless him when he rejects faith in Allah? Or does he pretend that he has penetrated to the mysteries of the future? For no man can tell what the future holds for him. (19.77)
78 Has he penetrated to the Unseen or has he taken a contract with (Allah) Most Gracious?
79 Nay! We shall record what he says and We Shall add and add to his punishment.
Such a man deserves double punishment,-for rejecting Allah, and for his blasphemies with His holy name. (19.79)
80 To Us shall return all that he talks of and he shall appear before Us bare and alone.
Literally, "We shall inherit", Cf. xix. 40 and n. 2492. Even if the man had property and power, it must go back to the Source of all things, and the man must appear before the Judgment-seat, alone and unaccompanied, stripped of all the things from which he expected so much! (19.80)
81 And they have taken (for worship) gods other than Allah to give them power and glory! 2525
'Izz=exalted rank, glory, power, might, the ability to impose one's will or to carry out one's will. (19.81)
82 Instead they shall reject their worship and become adversaries against them.
Cf. x. 28-30, where the idols deny that they knew anything of their worship, and leave their worshippers in the lurch; and v. 119, where Jesus denies that he asked for worship, and leaves his false worshippers to the punishment of Allah. (19.82)
83 Seest thou not that We have set the Evil Ones on against the Unbelievers to incite them with fury?
Under the laws instituted by Allah, when evil reaches a certain stage of rebellion and defiance, it is left to gather momentum and to rush with fury to its own destruction. It is given a certain amount of respite, as a last chance: but failing repentance, its days are numbered. The godly therefore should not worry themselves over the apparent worldly success of evil, but should get on with their own duties in a spirit of trust in Allah. (19.83)
84 So make no haste against them for We but count out to them a (limited) number (of days).
85 The day We shall gather the righteous to (Allah) Most Gracious like a band presented before a king for honors.
86 And We shall drive the sinners to Hell like thirsty cattle driven down to water
Note the contrast between the saved and the doomed. The one march with dignity like honoured ones before a king, and the other rush in anguish to their punishment like a herd of cattle driven down by thirst to their watering place. Note the metaphor of the water. They rush madly for water but are plunged into the Fire! (19.86)
87 None shall have the power of intercession but such a one as has received permission (or promise) from (Allah) Most Gracious.
88 They say: "(Allah) Most Gracious has begotten a son!"
89 Indeed ye have put forth a thing most monstrous!
The belief in Allah begetting a son is not a question merely of words or of speculative thought. It is a stupendous blasphemy against Allah. It lowers Allah to the level of an animal. If combined with the doctrine of vicarious atonement, it amounts to a negation of Allah's justice and man's personal responsibility. It is destructive of all moral and spiritual order, and is condemned in the strongest possible terms. (19.89)
90 At if the skies are ready to burst the earth to split asunder and the mountains to fall down in utter ruin.
91 That they should invoke a son for (Allah) Most Gracious.
92 For it is not consonant with the majesty of (Allah) Most Gracious that He should beget a son.
This basic principle was laid down early in the argument (xix. 35). It was illustrated by a reference to the personal history of many messengers, including Jesus himself, who behaved justly as men to their kith and kin and humbly served Allah. The evil results of such superstitions were pointed out in the case of many previous generations which went to their ruin by dishonouring Allah. And the argument is now rounded off towards the close of the Sura. (19.92)
93 Not one of the beings in the heavens and the earth but must come to (Allah) Most Gracious as a servant.
94 He does take and account of them (all) and hath numbered them (all) exactly.
Allah has no sons or favourites or parasites, such as we associate with human beings. On the other hand every creature of His gets His love, and His cherishing care. Everyone of them, however humble, is individually marked before His Throne of Justice and Mercy, and will stand before Him on his own deserts. (19.94)
95 And every one of them will come to him singly on the Day of Judgment.
96 On those who believe and work deeds of righteousness will (Allah) Most Gracious bestow Love.
His own love, and the love of man's fellow-creatures, in this world and in the Hereafter. Goodness breeds love and peace, and sin breeds hatred and contention. (19.96)
97 So have We made the (Qur'an) easy in thine own tongue that with it thou mayest give Glad Tidings to the righteous and warnings to people given to contention.
98 But how many (countless) generation before them have We destroyed? Canst thou find a single one of them (now) or hear (so much as) a whisper of them?
Whats The Real Story Of Mary From the Holy Quran?
May Allah bless you, my brother for your effort and time.
Jazak Allah khayr, isa.
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Reply:mr muslim doctor yahoo is meant for asking some serious questions. and not for explanation of some book views and ideas or spreading ur own believes.
create ur own page and spread ur views as much as u can. but pls don't use yahoo for these things.
Reply:So...are asking us about Mary's real story or telling us the real story of Mary
Reply:The real story is: THEY MADE IT UP. IT'S A LIE.
Reply:I did not intend to read the book so I will not answer you Jesus was messiah there is the answer you need
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Brother n Sister in Islam,
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Reply:using the quran to prove the existince of a person who probably never lived is called circular logic
and you as a doctor should know virgin births are just myths
Reply:there is no impossible to our god . as our god made our father Adm without father or mother %26amp; our god made jesus without mother .
Reply:Wow, what you perceive to be the "Real" story and what is reality are as far apart as the east is from the west!
I would not refer you to anyone as a doctor because you believe that it is O.K. for your prophet Muhammed at 54 years of age to have sexual intercourse with a 9 year old "Child"!!
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I wonder what other Horrendous, Evil, things you would believe that would jeopardize, and be a detriment to, someones physical and mental health!!
In todays civilized, modern culture, people that did the things that Muhammed did are put in prison!
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